Cumming early

alright im just gonna be a man about this and say it i cum to early sometimes its really hard for me and i feel like shit about it cus i feel like im ruining our sex life like people say focus on something else why would i want to be thinking about chairs or sandpaper that when im intimate with someone close to me not to mention stop bing turned on by thinking of random shit if anyone has any advice id really appreciate it.....thanks

 

Well, how about after you ooops, going down on her until you are ready to go again? Also try lots of foreplay. If you cum early, then the next time you'll last longer. You could even masturbate prior to starting anything with your girl, then when you do hook up you'll last longer.

 

thats what i have been doing like id cum after like 5 minutes and then id go down on her and after that id be ready again i could go for like 2 hours i just want to be able to do that before the first time

 

That will come with practice... (pardon the pun). Seriously, the more you do it, the better control you will have. You could even try kegel excercises to help with controlling it. Also, when you masturbate, do you just rub one out as quickly as you can? Maybe try and hold off during masturbation?

 

thanks i really appreciate it

 

Also, I think there's a numbing cream you can buy from your local pharmacy that can help with that problem. It's worth looking into.

 

It's kind of common for young guys to experience Pre-ejaculation. Increasing the times you masturbate should help a little.

I'd like to meet the person who suggested concentrating on the wall paper, what a bunch of BS. How can you concentrate on "other" things when your whole life all you thought about was having sex?

However, "speaking from personal experience" I would suggest that after you have foreplay and just prior to having intercourse go to the bathroom and masturbate. This simple practice will work for you and don't think that you won't be able to acheive an erection right away because you will, trust me on this. When you come back from the bathroomn just have enough foreplay to acheive an erection and than go right into intercourse.

If a girl asks you, "why did you go to the bathroom?" tell her, she will understand. Women respect guys who tell the truth and show their vulnerable side.

If you wanna talk about it more now or in the future just contact me, just don't let the whole situation get you too upset.

 

Somebody told you to think about sandpaper?!?

 

yea because its the most non sexual thing you can think of

 

Think about your grandmother being beheaded.

 

cant do it that totally turns me on

 

OMG that's funny. How about.......think about putting a catheter is your grandfathers flacid penis.

 

even more

 

Actually try holding off on masturbation alltogether. Seriously. What you're doing when you masturbate is training your body that ejaculating is the endgame of physical stimulation. If youre like most guys you probably jerk off to a magazine or the Internet. All your mind is doing is associating the sight of tits or whatever with ejaculating. That shouldn't be the goal of sex. It should be staying hard. Distracting yourself with thoughts of sandpaper probably wont keep you hard. And if you go soft in your girlfriend, that ain't cool.

I would also recommend learning the fine art of eating snatch. But don't let her catch on that youre doing that to get her off first. That will defeat the goal of increasing your longevity. And it wont make up for going soft inside her.

 

thanks drunkard for something i can actually use

 

Try switching positions when you are getting close. This helps me alot. Save the really stimulating positions for last. Do kegels and it will work wonders.

 

Ummnnh that's the way it works for you young people, enjoy it while it lasts, once you get older you will wish that you can reload within 5 minutes.
I don't see a problem here, just you wanting to be super sex man.
Does your GF have a prob with you coming quick and then needing a 5 minute munch on the carpet to get going again? Sounds to me this is a storm in a tea cup. Look around at all the other problems people face with sex and then look at your supposed problem. Sure we would all like to be super men in bed but if your partner is happy then you're way ahead of a lot of people.
Unfortunatley it is a cruel twist of nature that the better the sex the sooner the male orgasm. If she lay there and did nothing you would probably last ages first time but the quality would suck.

 

I respect that but at the same time the more you do it, the more you learn to control it.

 

Yes and no. Not masturbating to learn how to control the male orgasm seems counterintuitive, but it usually works out because your mind begins to disassociate certain things as the trigger for orgasm particularly if youve trained it to trigger orgasm while looking at Miss July's Brazilian Wax job.