alright i always seem to do this to myself. ill go through phases where i decide i dont want a boyfriend and i want to be single. (i know im young so 'what do i know' but just bare with me here.) anyways, whenever i start dating a guy that i REALLY like and am interested in, i seem to always attract (or go to, im not sure) other guys that also spark my interest. i hate this very much since i despise cheating in all of its forms. im dating this guy now who im in love with (love as i know it). its amazing and all but its happening again- a blast from the past who i actually care about is coming around. dont get me wrong, im not contemplating leaving, but more just wondering if anyones got some insight as to WHYYYYYY this keeps happening to me or how to deal without getting so stressed. im fine with self control but its like the forces of this world want me to be a freakin skank!!!
Maybe you don't want to be in a relationship so you start noticing other guys that you wouldn't have had you been single? Maybe you don't like the commitment? This is subconcious, not concious. I'm just guessing so take what I have said as a grain of salt. Examine why you feel the way that you do. That might shed some light as well. Peace & Love
I get phases of the same thing, I think everyone does to be honest. I am besotted with my boyfriend and honestly don't see myself ever loving anybody else but I have stages when it actually dawns on me that I wont ever be with anyone else and so my subconcious starts having a freak out. It's normal but the thing to do is remind yourself why you are sticking with your fella in the first place. If you wanted to be with anyone else then you would be.
i do the same thing, though i tend to avoid even getting too close to dating because i can usually see these problems coming early enough in advance to know that dating would not be wise. i've got a terrible fear of commitment, no idea why. i've also got an incredibly strong aversion to a guy wanting to have any claim to me...not in a feminist way exactly, but i really resent that a boyfriend has some say in what i can and can't do. the fact that i've got a lot of guy friends really makes my life complicated because jealousy happens and simply trying to hang out with my friends gets misinterpreted. maybe i'm selfish, maybe just immature...but needless to say, i'm currently in a militantly single state of being!
