Friendship with an ex--is it possible?

Do you think it is possible to remain friends with an ex? What advice would you give someone who wants to do so?

 

IF you broke up on good terms. I would say it is possible.

 

If neither of you has another relationship.

 

Yes it is. If you were friends before, and didn't have a terribly messy break up, then it's quite possible.

 

yes...

but spend a bit of time apart first, a week or two, and then start working on the friendship. Right after a break up, it's just too close, too soon, too tender to really deal with

 

I agree with what others have said, it really depends on the break up. I am friends, albeit not close friends because I moved away from home, with a few of my ex's. Others I am not friends with and its better for them and for me.

 

i'm stereotyping here obviously, all relationships are different....

but if you want to stay friends with an ex, one of the first things you need to understand is that all those plans/hopes/secrets etc you shared with them are now solely your own again, and not part of his/her life..... no matter how much they felt shared, or how much you want them to be shared.

you have to move from the intimate back to the superficial

 

definitely possible to a degree if you were friends before you dated, but it won't ever be exactly like it was before. in some ways it's almost like starting over from scratch with the friendship.
other thing to watch out for is the tendency for the dating relationship to want to happen again. make sure you have clear boundaries for said friendship, and try to prevent it from becoming a relatively deep relationship.

 

Yeah its possible, but it won't be the same.. Or thats the way its been for me.

 

its surely possible but of course it depends on both of you.. if the time healed the wounds of your broken relationship and moved on with your lives.. you can still be friends..

all my EXes became my friends afterwards..

 

I'm friends with a couple of my exes, but not all of them, and especially not my ex husband. It totally depends on the nature of your relationship with them before and after the breakup, and what your motives are. People sometimes want to stay friends, in hopes of getting back together, that won't work. But if it's someone you have a really deep connection to, just not the romantical kind, yeah, you can be friends forever.

 

It is possible on two conditions:

1. You make it DAMNED CLEAR that you have no intention of ever getting back together with them and that "friends with benefits" is out of the question. Basically, you act like they're the opposite sex from what they really are (unless you're bi, then you act like they have quils on their genitalia).
2. You don't date anybody else. But what are the chances of that?! Seriously, dating people is fun, anybody who gives that up just to maintain a friendship with an ex is an idiot. And the reason you can't be friends with them when you date, is because you should become mere accuaintences at that point, friendship with an ex is too deep and obligating to make your future partners deal with it.

 

ý can say onethin about this topic ..........your old darling never is your friend forever becaus when relationships begin . darlings give some permission about his life and relations ....if one relation destroys darling never wanna to be all together an d they dont want to see each other anymore

 

I think it's possible only when both people have no desire to form the relationship again.

 

it can totally work out. me and my ex are actually best friends, sounds weird but we are. trust me it can totally work out.

 

I'd like to see one friendship that worked....
No ex can be your friend... Ever....
The spirits of the past will hunt you all the way...
Impossible, i know it for sure...
Maybe if it wasn't a really deep relationship, and if both of you don't regret about the breakup and can really detach yourself from the past...
May i repeat?
Practically impossible

 

I have 2 exes. One I'm really close friends with, and she even has a boyfriend now too, and the other, well, we despise each other, haha. So I geuss its possible...sometimes.

 

why wouldnt it be???... just keep it out of the bedroom or it will cause trouble,,,, hell unless yer realchummy still i would leave the whole new man new woman n sex completely out.... specially if its a new break up ,,,, ..

 

Ex-wife or ex-girlfriend?
I'm trying to get there with my ex-wife. Not yet divoced, but she moved out a year ago. The main things I see in my situation is that we agree about the money. No kids (thank God), so seeing her does not immediatly bring up conflicts.

Another factor is that we are both trying to have a good divorce. Neither of us wants to "win".

Finaly, I'm getting to the point where my thinking of her reminds me of the good times (at the start of our relationship) rather than (or in addition to) the bad times that ended our marriage.

I would say that trying to have a civilized divorce is a path that might lead to a friendship. I also wouldn't try to rush the friendship, give yourself and her time to hate each other for a while before trying to become friends again.

 

Im friends with all my Ex's, dont know wether thats a good or a bad thing realy.