Am I just surrounded by assholes???

Why is it that all of the people I know treat me like crap? Every person I have ever come into contact with just...I dont know. They won't put out any effort whatsoever to be with me. I try making plans over and over again, and they cancel at the last minute, saying they will "call me tomorrow."

...yeah, like that ever happens lol.


I'm just wondering if this is just a situation where I have just been hanging out (or trying to hang out) with a bunch of assholes or if I'm just a completely boring person. I'm worried its me; I am about to start college in a month or so and I would love to not be so alone. I'm an extremely quiet, shy person. I'm usually up in my bedroom reading or drawing, or I do my glassblowing. I don't know, I try going out by myself. Its nice, but I would really rather go out with someone else. I'm trying not to mess it up when I go to college by being my shy self, because it left me completely alone in high school. It was so depressing, because everyone else was crying and hugging their friends that they were moving away from, and I had no one. Not like a few close friends compared to the many "popular" people, I had no one. Its...its very pathetic. Its over though, I'm just wondering if anyone has gone through this, or if anyone has any advice on how to be more social.

 

Are you cute?

 

I don't know, look at my gallery.

 

been there, done that, felt like whale poo (pretty low)


the new start will do you good, over the last couple of years i have grown up and opened my wings, and feel this process will continue, i am moving away to uni soon. there will be people i miss this time, but i'm not sad

if you're feeling down, change can often be good

 

Yep. You're surrounded by assholes.

However, you should do something about it. Being a shy person doesn't help. Believe me, as another shy person, I know!!!

When you get to college, make a point of talking to people. People in your dorm. People in your classes. Go to events. Go to at least a few club meetings. If you're at all spiritual, find a group that touches on that. Just don't keep waiting for people to do stuff.

 

Hi there,

I was a lot like you in highschool - very shy and quiet. Today I'm quiet but not so shy. I talk to people who I think have the same interests. Just starting up a conversation with people in your class can be the first step to friendship. I have gotten rid and forgotten most of the people in highschool who hurt me. And so should you! Forget them and start fresh. There are millions of people out there. Pick and choose. That's my philosophy. Try and mingle and chat with as many people as you can. Once you get to know them over a few weeks or months maybe you can invite them out to a social event, like the movies, party or a night out. Its really easy once you get into it. Its hard to start off with because people are shy themselves once they start college. Everyone is scared. But starting up a conversation is the best way to ensure you will have someone to talk to through the semester. Hope that helps if you haven't found your feet yet.

All the best.

 

try this book, "How To Talk To Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. its really interesting, and full of ideas and tips on how to make conversation and stuff about body language etc. i'm painfully shy and hide behind my oh so convenient hair alot, but you could try some thing i do sometimes:

at college, look around and smile at people when you catch their eye, especially the ones who you will be sharing classes with, or those you are likely to see around and about often. you'll be surprised how many other people are nervous too, and will be glad of the friendly gesture and therefore return it. by sharing a smile you immediately have that little familiarity with each other, and they will feel a nice friendly warm recognition towards you. this will later lead to small talk and then friendships.

thats about all i can say really, seeing as i'm not really a conversation
maestro

you'll do great. you'll surprise yourself

 

Wow, you sound exactly like me. I was incredibly shy in high school, and not to mention a pretty skinny, non-athletic guy. So, I was made fun of alot, and was the butt of many jokes. In other words, I juts kind of felt that 90% of the people there could care less that I even existed. I just had my five or so good friends, and that was it. I was always so depressed because everyone seemed to have a gf, or a bf, except me. I always just felt so alone, because I'm the type of guy who just needs a girl to be around to be truly happy. But, I have felt better now because I know that college will be different. Its true, in high school, people are assholes. In college, most people lose that immature teasing crap. I know for a fact that college people are so much nicer. You will make so many friends in college, it will be the best 4 years of your life. And, if it makes you feel any better, MANY married couples met in college.

 

yes you are surrounded by assholes...
the majority of people on earth are, this you will find.

You cannot make everyone happy at the same time, there is always going to be someone who does not like how your livin' your life... but you cant live trying to meet everyones expectations, its impossible... just be yourself, and if someone doesnt like it, fuck them.

Reminds me of me.

Peace,
Mui.

 

I can't keep up with you. Didn't you used to be Quadraphenia then some other name?

 

Hi DancinGnome, yup, I can relate. Let me guess: A lot of ppl in your life relate to you 1 on 1 but when it comes to social situations (2 or more ppl besides yourself) you feel left in the dust.


Don't sweat it. It can be a drag at times but remember alot of what's shown in social situations is just surface. Creative people are usually more introspective than most ppl and to some extent the games and poseing that go into the social dance just goes against the nature of someone who's chronically deep.

Advise, since you asked: In college try to take as many right-brained classes as you can; creative writing, art, drama, etc.(I'm guessing you probably are anyway) your going to be pleasantly surprised how many people you'll meet who come from the same planet that you do.
For me it was as if I'd been wanderring around a foriegn country all my life and suddenly ran into a group of tourists (more like refugees) from my own land. It's cool when you finally find someone who speaks your language.

As far as trying to be more social, hmmm...anytime I've ever tryed to fit in with ppl I didn't click with I walked away pissed and disappionted--even when it worked.
If you're a duck trying to fit in with chickens you might be able to pull it off but it wont ever be as satisfying as finding just one other duck.

btw most ppl are assholes. Try to find the right kind of assholes to hang with and you'll be OK.

 

hmmm...

Chemistry, English, Calculus, and Biology


Not really right-brained classes, but oh well...

I'm finally back online, I just got a brand new computer today. It's wonderful ).

 

lets hold hands and sign *hugs* laaaa laaa laalalalala *sings* come on everybody get on your big girl and big boy pants and sing!!

 

What??????

 

i just felt like saying something nice and happy... umm sorry to lose the topic..

 

you will always be surrounded by assholes.

i traveled for years, and even though alot were nice, they were STILL assholes. and you will find later on in life that the "popular" ones are the biggest losers!!! belive me. and all the hotties will end up gay!! LOL
just always stay close with your family, and dont turn away people that arnt "cool" cause it not whats on the outside. find yourself and be happy with it. cause life will be good if ya let it

 

I've been there a lot longer than I ever wanted to be. Just try and to be social when ever you have the chance and you'll eventually fit somwhere. You're very cute.