Phone Sex--(he wants to, I don't.)

OK, here's the deal.


My boyfriend seems like he really wants to have phone sex. He told me that he'd never done it before me, and asked me if I wanted to try it. He said that if I didn't like it, we could stop. So I was like, "ok, whatever".

So we did it, but I didn't really masturbate all that much...just a little, but not to an orgasm or anything. I didn't make any noise, but he says that he wanted to hear me moaning, lol, blah blah blah...


So yeah, he makes his little grunts while he's jacking off, and in like a few seconds, he's done.


So he asks me how I liked it and I was like, it's ok, whatever, good night.

About a week or so later, he wants to do it again, and this time he's almost insistant. He's telling me to rub my tits and play with my pussy, etcetera. And I'm telling him that I don't want to. And he's all like, "trust me, I know what I'm doing". And I'm like, "well I don't feel like doing it".


He sounds really disappointed, and is shocked when I'm "yelling" at him over the phone (I was not even yelling, he's just an exaggerator)He swears he was just grumpy that day, though. He tried to tell me he wasn't mad, and that it's up to me, but I still don't buy it.


So he wants to do it tonight, and I told him yes, just because I don't want him to go to bed upset or frustrated or anything, you know? Maybe I should just pretend, or put up with it to make him happy.


I really do love him too. And he tells me he loves me. And is love not about sacrifice?

Has anyone done this and enjoyed it? Because I just don't. I like PHYSICAL CONTACT. Phone sex for me is just weird.

 

To all of you twenty four people who viewed but did not repspond, you can lick my ass!

free speech, bitch!

 

I've done it before, and it is ok. I think it is more a mental thing. I think he just wants to hear someone getting off to the thought of being with him. Are you guys living a great distance from each other or are you in the same town? Do you even do anything over messenger or anything like that?

I don't get a lot from phone sex. I much rather be in person, but if it's a long term long distance thing, then I think it would be almost neccessary...

If you guys are in the same town though... kind of pointless - IMO.

Even though I responded, can I still lick your ass?

 

We live in the same town, but we see eachother only like every weekend, because we both have jobs, but he works like ALL THE TIME!

And when he's working, he's staying untill like 10:30 at night, and THEN he takes the bus home, so he gets home at probably like damn near twelve, maybe eleven thirty.

It sucks, but basically, it's the only way I guess he gets his "fix" when we're not together, lol.

But I'm like you, I like PHYSICAL CONTACT.

And yes, feel free to lick my ass.

 

i've done it a few times this past month. it was fun, i enjoyed it - i know it will have nothing on being together physically, but its kinda hard being together when its a long distance relationship. so this is a good way of being close with her...i just have fun with it.

 

heehee...

Yeah, so how old are you both, if I may ask? Is there a way you could share some private pictures with him, so that he could take care of himself alone? I would feel like a total perv if I was forcing my gf into phone sex... it just wouldn't feel right to me. But maybe with pics/videos of yourself, he could get you whenever the mood hit him... of course you'd have to have some very strong trust built for this, and I wouldn't recommend this if you guys or either of you is underage.

 

Yeah we're both underage, lol, but his 18th birthday is next month, and I'd like to make it special for him... I'm 17, and he'll be eighteen, so yyyeah, lol... He's not allowed to drive or have a car untill his 18th birthday, so that's why he takes the bus...

NVM.

But yeah, thanks for trying to help anyway!

 

dude...your having a hard time giving phone sex up? Just do it...seriously give each other what you want and if all the poor dude wants is phone sex than give it to him. If you don't feel like touching yourself dont just redirect and talk about how you want to touch him...
It's a lot harder for me to be in a long disatanc relationship where sex is basically non existent when I cant be with him I would feel too unconnected. He always makes sure I stay uhm connected heheee

 

lol so you have phone sex?

Thanks for the advice.

 

You shouldn't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. That's not fair to you. I've never had phone sex, though I'm not above the idea with the guy I'm with now because I do masturbate and some of the funnest times I've had alone were with him through the computer (heck yes, cybering, lol). But we're open enough with each other that we're not afraid to say no. If he doesn't respect you enough to also respect your wishes and feelings, then you've got deeper problems than just phone sex. Talk to him about it, tell him your feelings, but be open to his opinion as long as it's not outright pushing. You should never feel forced to do anything you don't want to do. You may or may not change your mind, just remember, whatever feelings you have towards it are okay, whether they coincide with your boyfriend's or not.

 

That's never a good reason to do anything. Like any other intimate act, it should happen by mutual consent. So, dont even go down that road unless you know where it comes out.