True Love - Cannot stop thinking about the person when they are not around

In my experience, true love is when the person in question is not around and you cannot stop thinking about them.

I am going through this at the moment.

No matter what you are doing or where you are, you cannot resist thinking about them.

I was at a rock concert last week with friends....really into it....until I start thinking about this girl.

Will let you know more as it happens.

 

In my experience, that is also a sign of infatuation and not quite love...

 

That's the point I conceded to somebody I have extremely strong feelings for just recently. The fact that it hurt to admit it only made me think that the infatuation was just a part of my powerful emotions I feel towards her.

I can tell her I love her now, and she doesn't panic, because she knows where it comes from, and what it means to both of us...

But there hasn't been a single day in the last 9 months that I didn't think about her.. ALOT, whehter she's near me of not. Whether we're speaking, or not..

 

that's cute

 

I know how you feel lankymidget. I will try and see if there is a chance to date the girl at work....break the spell as it were!

 

My story gets a little stranger...

I've never met the person I'm talking about!

We chatted for a few months.. She disappeared for about 3 months. I was told she was dead. She came back. I helped her deal with things that threatened to take her again.

We call each other alot now.. And we'll be meeting sometime soon. For now, we've created a world for ourselves that lets us use our imaginations and reach a level of intimacy that even real friendships don't manage. And it feels like we see each other.

 

this girl i know has been gone for over a year. i tried my best to stay in contact. i called and sent letters, but to no avail.
everybody tells me to just get over it, and i really have tried. but it has been over a year, and i still havent been with anyone else.
my gut keeps telling me to just wait it out. i keep thinking i will see her again.
do you think thats....unhealthy?

we only seperated because her parents didnt like me. i think it was because i am american.

 

My friend, who I would absolutely want to be my lover, went through her own period of constant heartache, over somebody else. I was there for her briefly when they first parted company..

But then she started doing things she would later regret, and will, it seems, pay for for the rest of her life. She tried to commit suicide because she couldn't deal with the rejection.. She then told somebody to tell this "girlfriend" that she was dead. And had succeeded in ending her life. This done to stop anybody from contacting her, or asking about her, she then stopped caring about herself, put loads of weight on, and got it into her head that she's now ugly..

The two actually made up again for a few months, but they'd both changed, and no longer had that connection.

So she's once again all depressed. And losing control of her life again.. She'll understandably blame this last year's events if she doesn't get into university.. But there has to be a point where she says to herself... "This was mostly my fault, and I have to pick myself up"


No, it's not unhealthy to hold on your dreams and hopes... But it can eat away at your life if you let it.. Right now, as things happen so quickly, I'm regretting some of the things I said to her last night, and hoping I haven't pushed her away... She's not talking to me properly, and I know her well enough to give her some space..

 

nice.
but sometimes I think day and night about those who pissed me off so bad..so not a good asociation for me

 

damnit, I must be in love with 9 different girls.

 

That's called OBSESSION...get a hobby.

 

haha... i remember my college days.. i like this girl from school, i belive we had this mutual feelings for each other, we talk till midnight, gives me smile whenever i see her at school, a smile that could really bright my day but when vacation came, we seldom communicate, that's where my confusion came in, i fell deeply in love with my friend, i knew her since childhood, but just noticed her lately, we go out, watch movies, laugh jokes together, it came to the point where i told her how much i love her, how much she made me crazy, but i also told her that i had no plans to court her... vacation ended..my friends saw me crying at the cafeteria, that's the first time they saw me crying. Now she has a boyfriend, and the guy was also a friend of mine, i admit it really hurts whenever i see them, we nver talk about the night i told my feelings for her, too bad i got afraid to court my friend

 

Hmm.... I wonder if so strong feelings ever really can disappear... I was a dirtbag and now she hates me... :\ I'm keen on a couple of other chicks too, but HELL! She got me!

 

for me ,i dont believe the true love.
for lots people,first of all, to sleep together two people.
and sleep for so long time,then produce the reins.this reins,lots of people call it love.
just like this.

 

yellowfever7688 friend:

do you know chinese words "peace"???

maybe are you a chinese person in outside ovesea????
and your parents are all both chinese ??!!!!!


the chinese "peace " is very very meanfullly for the world.
no war no political disicuss. very eweal between people.

 

Love is a fickle thing it can be broken it can be impenitrable it can be twisted or cracked, everyone see's it differntly and therefor everyone feels it differently to say that you constantly think about a certain person.. perhaps to you that is love?

 

Not sure...like I said, I can we working or at a gig and wham! suddenly I am thinking about this girl. Its not a physical thing although she is very pretty. Very strange and still don't have the answers. I do have another thread posted on this site under "Mind F***" (shame its been given that name they could have called it something else) but anyway my thread is "Girl at Work Messing with my mind" It makes interesting reading as I have never seen anything like it anywhere.

 

I completely agree. That used to be the way I defined love, but really...love may begin out that way, but it can also become really unhealthy. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we were absolutely crazy for each other and always thinking about each other but as our relationship progressed and our love grew, it more or less became a real partnership. It's hard to describe exactly what love is, but constantly thinking about the same person no matter what is definitely a sign of infatuation.

 

I can't stopdreaming about a good guy friend of mine. He doesn't know how I feel and I'm not planning on telling him because I know it will never work out. I just don't know how to stop dreaming about him. It's been happening EVERY night for the past 2 months with the exception of a few nights and its very exhausting. How can I stop these dreams?

 

If you say "such are the conditions of true love", he *infatuated* will gladly imitate whatever said now.