over the years we have tried many times for me to be on top, but its so damm difficult. he lies there with me sat over his lap inside of me but then what? i feel like i am impailing myself, i have very little room for movement, 1/2 inch at best i just seem like i cant get any motion going at all, so we end up with me lifting myself a bit and him doing the work, again, this doesnt really have the desired effect at all, so how can i change this? once inside me i havent got a clue on how to move at all, sitting up is very uncomfortable so i tend to be lent forward at about 45 degrees on resting on my hands with my knees bent at the side, so can anyone help me with how to move like that.
Oh, I have this problem too...It never seems to work when I'm on top and I feel bad becuase I want to be able to give my boy a break. No solutions here, but hopefully someone has one!
I find that it works best if you're both putting in some effort. The guy can still have a rest because he's on his back and only really has to move his hips about and the chick can work off the rhythm...
but the rythm that is there is totally him doing it then, so how the hell does this woman on top thing equate to the best position for a girl to get off if their man is still doing the work then? cause they will be doing it their own style for whats best for them surely?
When I'm on top, I find that if I lean forward and put my hands on my husband's chest, that I get a really good angle. Or if he sits up and I sit in his lap. But the thing is, he stimulates my clitoris while in either of these positions. I can help guide him with my own hand as to what feels best, harder pressure, or lighter. So if you're on top, have your husband touch you at the same time (not sure if you're doing that already or not, but I took it that you weren't from your post). And most of the time, to be honest, when I'm on top, I like to take the reigns so-to-speak, and I control the rhythm, speed, everything. My husband just lays back and lets me take over. He will move his hips, but sometimes I just like him still, and he goes with it.
yes he does do that, but its the lack of movement as just sitting there isnt going to keep everything going i.e. he will go soft!!!!! i just seem to get there and then get stuck as i cant get anything going on. and all hes left with is him doing my clit and a soft dick!!!! so as you can see it kinda spoils the mood and i just honestly dont want to do that but feel guilty about him doing all the work.
have you maybe tried practicing when he's not around? Aaah, I know it sounds silly, but it helps some. Well, it helped me... I'd pulled a muscle pretty badly the first time I tried being on top (lol, walked with a limp for nearly two days), so I tried practicing the motion a bit so that my muscles were strong and more used to it. It's a bit of an odd rhythm to get in to, when you aren't used to it. Now I really enjoy being on top, since I'm finally used to it
Put some thigh muscles into it! Rock some hips! There's plenty of motion you can do but it takes effort. What hippychickmomma suggested is probably the easiest way to go and it's usually my default on top position for when my thighs need to catch a second wind.
what do you suggest to use for practise then? cause rubbing myself on pillows isnt really the problem, that only happens when hes inside me, its like my hips just lock up so what the heck can i use, a vib shoved in there? and then rocking on the pillows?
Well, if he gets soft while he's inside you, you've got a problem. That really shouldn't happen at all. I've never known a guy to do that. Usually the stimulation is intense enough just from the guy being inside you to keep him rock hard. Maybe we could get some input from guys on that. Also, in my experience a lot of the girl-on-top thing has to do with the way that guy-plus-girl is made, the way their bodies are shaped as to whether it's going to be a good fit or not. I've been with guys where on top was a perfect fit, and others where it just didn't work. I really think that has a lot to do with it, whether your two bodies kind of 'fit' together.
it seems to me that once i get on top, because i have to open my legs so far to kneel over him then there isnt a lot of range left in my hips to allow for movement, almost like they are at full stretch, it isnt that he is a big guy either his waist is 34 inches and im about the same size hip wise as him, i could probably move better if i could keep my legs together but then thats impossible isnt it?
Well, if I'm with a guy that's a good fit, it's very easy to move back and forth and grind my pubic bone along his. I don't understand if you're both 34 waist why you would have to open your legs so far to be on top of him. Maybe it's just the way both of you fit (or don't fit) together. Also, for me a big part of the 'fit' is that his dick is buried up in me-if your guy is not real hard when he's in you and then he's losing his erection, that could have a lot to do with it.
he looses it because of the way i feel about trying to get on top of him, it cant be very sexy if your with someone that just feels like a total jerk!!!!!! once im off him it always comes back to life!!!! if hes really hard then it is just so damm painful that to be honest i have to sit totally still and concentrate on switching off the pain i feel, by which time its to late hes losing it, lack of motion going on.
Goodness, girl, I don't know what to say. Either he's not hard or when he is it hurts you, plus you've got about 5 other problems. Sorry, that's about the best I can do. But you're not a 'total jerk'-he wouldn't be married to you or in bed with you or whatever if you were. Anyway, rotsa ruck-it sounds like you need it.
boy dont i know it , how many things i have to sort out cause of the mess im in!!! trouble is knowing which one to start on first as they are all conected to each other!! chickhen and egg thing here i think.
you don't have to practice on anything necessarily. I didn't... just had to get used to the motion. I'm not saying it's what's going to work for you, it's just what worked for me. My guy does have a thinner set of hips than I do though, that may've helped
you mean you practised on him? didnt you feel stupid when it was all wrong and out of timing etc? how did you push yourself one to keep going if you had a hard time with it?
