hi everyone. My new post in this forum. Im really vexed about what Im going to tell you, and I need advice. My boyfriend is young (25), very handsome, smart, and great as a man and a person: PERFECT. We have been together for 2 and a half years, and he has loved me very much. But he has tried to appeal himself before many girls at least on websites like myspace.com behind my back until I found him there, so I have learned to doubt his faithfulness and commitments. He will be away to the opposite side of the earth for about four months during the summer. As I said, he is truly handsome, tall, and athletic, so Im worried he might cheat on me. Dont you think such perfect, attractive men usually are cheaters? Think about Hollywood stars: they are great as people but also do get a lot of sexual encounters right? My boyfriend really does love me, but also likes women and sex too. What should I do? Im younger than him, and Im thinking if it would be ok for me to go dates with other guys while he will be gone, because he will be gone not because of work or anything that makes him having to do it, but because he is quitting the work and having a summer break.
Um...so basically, you don't want him to cheat on you, but you're going to go out with other guys while he's gone. LOL That's the stupidest thing I've heard in awhile.
nope. I think people who don't respect their partners are usually cheaters Flirting online doesn't translate into cheating. I flirt on here all the freakin time, but I would never cheat on my boyfriend. Has he actually been unfaithful? Or does he just have a flirty nature?
ya know its girls like you that make the jelious men the way they are..and no i dont think you should cheat on your boyfriend even if he is all the way across the earth..its just wrong and i dont know you personally but just because you assume that hes going to cheat because hes hansom..that wouldnt be worth ruining what you have
How long have you been together? 2 and half years? Sounds like you've got really bad trust issues, even after that long. And if you're wanting to date around while he's gone, then why shouldn't he feel free to do the same? That's not fair to him if you can and he can't. Just because someone's good looking doesn't mean they'll roam. Like Ihmurria said, online flirting is generally harmless. Take a good look at the amount of flirting that goes on around here for example, and then consider how many have sig. others. My advice is, if you can't build trust in him before he leaves, your best bet is to end the relationship and seriously work on your trust issues. It will just crumble anyway during the time that he is gone if you don't trust him.
i do have trust issues with him, but its not only because of my nature. He has lied to me too many times in the past. His love letters he used to send me several times everyday were all stolen from the internet love-letter sites while he made me believe he was the one who wrote them all. He used to have numerous profiles on the internet sites with his sexy pictures to make many sexy girl "friends" that all lived near his town and wrote many flirty things there to attract slutty girls, meanwhile he always used to tell me he would die for me, everything he did was for me, blah blah blah.. He has lied to me about quitting a certain drug and we had to fight in a mess until he finally confessed that he hadnt quit it. etc etc. He has a habit of lying, and every time I found his lies, I still tried to trust him again, and again.. But every time it happened, my heart was broken more deeply. I wish I could trust him, but having seen him lie to me so too many times, I just cant trust him 100%. I dont think its totally my fault.
yes, but i just cant break up with him. he does lie to me, but Im too much in love with him. He is wonderful as a person: just perfect to my eyes. Has anybody had the same experience? Loving someone for the person he/she is, although he/she is not into you or does bad things to you.. He may be treating me unfairly, but despite that I know that he is a great person and I respect him for the way he lives his life.
I've been in your shoes and it's called EMOTIONAL ABUSE. He probably has you brainwashed into thinking that you can't do any better, so he can do all these vindictive things to you. He obviously he ISN'T a great person if he lies to you constantly! Any guy that isn't completey truthful to me...no matter how long I've been with him...can take a hike. You'll be better off without him. Although, it sounds like you're awefully dependent on him...you need to get a hobby and break away from that kind of abuse.
I think he's going to cheat on you, personally, from everything I read. I'd be surprised if he doesn't. I think you two ought to talk before he goes away, and consider breaking up. It doesn't sound to me like a healthy relationship.
Youre saying youre in love with a lie. And that hes still perfect even though he lies. Like DancerAnnie said, he lies to you and gets away with it. What I'm having trouble reconciling is you have issues with his loyalty online, but you want to date other guys while hes away. Either youre looking for an out or a way to give him an out.
