Hey I have an idea lets actually give a shit about each other

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Hey...

Maybe you should stop searching for that one person,
you should be that 'one person' to yourself...
But I'm sure there is someone who cares about you...
Maybe you've fallen into a point where you can't see it anymore.
Too much searching can make you blind.
If you stop it, you'll start to find.
Your parents sound like my parents, haha,
try to forgive them, for your own peace.
You can be alone without being lonely,
and that truly is a choice.
Now about communes...
If you don't like what you see around you,
maybe you should start your own commune.
(Although that is really hard to do.)

Peace

 

farming for me is important because it keeps you alive. the more you live the more you can love so to that extent it is a priority. I agree though too many people go around living as fakes but you can't let that get to you, surround yourself with the people you like spending time with and talk to people about your ideas. if people don't know that you hate just sitting there and not doing anything to better the world then how can they tell you that they want to change things too.

step by step you can make a difference, it takes time, determination and hard work.

be the change you want to see.

 

You must learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Try getting connected in small group. Go to church. I have that feeling but then when I go to my church I feel a sense of belonging, even though I don't know anyone.

 

I know exactly how you feel man, you can move out to Washington and be with me until I sell my plane which should be soon because then I'm probably taking off hitchhiking down south, or starting building my future home which is a tree house in the back of my moms property, we could hitchhike together too though. I really used to hate to hear things like what lightlisa had to say when I had and have those same feelings but I know deep down she's right. I routered out this in a big piece of cedar for my mom this christmas maybe it'll mean something to you maybe not, but after feeling so bad and really angry for so long, I started resorting back to the books and quotes I've read to keep me centered. It's by HD Thoreau and goes like this. "There is no remedy for love but to love more" and after that I carved "Thank You for all the years of unrelenting kindness and love" There's one thing I'd suggest. Make something for someone you care about, not a pseudo friend, maybe your barber or a nice lady where you work or go to school. I guarantee that if you put effort time authenticity and love into the piece you make, it'll wind up being more of a gift to you than a gift to them. Be sure to look them deeply in the eye when you give it to them and tell them how you really really feel and trust me, you'll get so so much more back; though don't have preconceptions about what's coming back to you, let it be a mystery in your head, you'll see most clearly what the deeper gift is then.
A Hug for you Brother,
George

 

Wow,~
I'm really feelin ya, man.
Hey, listen, I'm probably gonna take off to a small commune in a month or so.
I've been hoping for somebody to travel with.
It's all good if you feel like taking the short trip out to worcester from the cape and we can chill together. I've been feeling the exact same way since my fiance and I broke up last spring~ it'd be nice to be around somebody who feels the same.
The world's weird, man...what can you do?
Hey, really, if you're not doing anything too important, it'd be grouvai if you felt like coming out here.

Later, dude
~feel the Loves

 

Wow, this topic has stolen the words from my mouth.

Rossy, I am in the exact same sort of situation, interestingly enough, though I've never actually been to a commune. I have to be the professional faker, of course - as it is a social taboo to express such dire emotional hunger. It scares most people, sadly. "Oh my god, that guy is nuts!" "You're a whiney emo fag" "You need to love yourself first" "There's nothing you can do about it" "You can't expect people to do that for you" etc etc, these are all the dumb things that I hear in the rare instances that I take off the mask. So it just keeps getting worse. To do anything, I have to put on a persona everywhere, or else if I show my neediness, it'll scare everyone away.

Believe me, you're not the only one in your situation. Your post is another hint to me. Somehow I have this theory that a lot of people are secretly massively needy like that and but are unknown, because there is such immense social stigma (along with tons of faulty advice that often accompanies when such feelings are expressed, too) that surrounds the mere expression of such thoughts and feelings. So lots of us tend to go into hiding and putting on personas. I wish more people could come out in the open about it, because think: what would happen if a bunch of emotionally needy & lonely souls suddenly found themselves together? In theory, the negativity would be nullified for obvious reasons. I know, at least in regards to myself, that if I were to see another person act with such desperation, I'd instantly befriend them. I have a lot of love I want to give to people even if I haven't been receiving it myself, though I wish I could find an opportunity to do so.

Interesting, though, as I have long contemplated visiting some communes, however I am very worried that it'd amount to the same thing as anywhere else: either put on a persona, or scare the hell out of them with my problems.

 

*hugs*

I totally care!!

 

I think people do care, but it can take a lot to get it out of some of them.
Like for instance I went to Michigan for three days, not knowing a soul there.
By the time I came back to Canada, I had made 4 interesting and intelligent new friends who opened their arms to me.

I think people tend to hold back too much, because they're afraid... But they don't know what they're afraid of. We're taught to be afraid because something bad could happen.

 

exactly!

 

Chapel Hill, NC. Come here and be loved.

 

this thread reminds me of something i found quite ironic one day .........i went to visit a friend one day ,he is a master wood carver who has gained an international reputation ...when i got out of my van he walked over to me and asked me if i would hug a man out of friendship ..i said "sure" so i walked over and hugged him and even planted a kiss on his cheek ......he turned around and said to a lady there "see? i told you not all guys are homophobic to the point of not hugging another man " turns out the lady was a psychologist and from ,guess where ?? cape cod .......hope they ain't all like that there,rossy ..............peace and A HUG

 

oops..mispost

 

hello

I don't live in a box!

*huggs*

 

so well said *tear*

 

I like that this forum has a lot of MALES talking about their feelings. That shows how our collective consciousness is tranforming into one of peace, love, and universal brotherhood (and sisterhood) lol.

There's a great movie I wanna recommend that EVERYONE go see. It's called "The Celestine Prophecy". It'll be out in about a month!

www.thecelestinemovie.com

 

I don't know what rock the others have been living under, but I'm ready to go.

 

aww...rossy, i'm so sorry. i felt very much the same way until recently because my family's not visibly loving or affectionate at all..never said "i love you" or hugged much when i was growing up. i've recently come to realize that my family really does love me deep down, but still kinda feel like i don't know how to just let myself be loved.

if i didn't live so far away, i'd come and give you a hug

 

Hey, thats really a bummer about your parents...everyone should grow up with love. Of course i love all people who are willing to love back ...that includes you.

 

You know what? I think it's time for a great big.....................

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~Group Hug!!!~​

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