I've finaly broken down and collapsed one of my morals. I borrowed money from family. Now at age 24 I thought my life would be more averaged out. I don;t realy know wha tthe fuck I'm doing anymore. The upside is MAYBE this will allow me the window I need to assess my problems and kick them out of mmy life. if I beleived in a god I'd ask hewr what the fuck I did wrong. Truth is I know, I didn;t pay close enough attention to my finances and myu partner pissed them away. BUt I won;t cry for yesterday there's an ordniary world an somehow I will survive.
re reading my last three posts, I'm a walking mental breakdown. I think I need to make drastic changes.
Destro ... Not borrowing money from your parents is not a moral ... It is a principal ... There is nothing "right" or "wrong" about it. Only "desirable" or "undesirable." Peace to you.
I borrow money from my family all the time, and i pay it back Stop being so hard on yourself and let yourself live a little. Heres an interesting thought: If electricity comes from electrons, then morality must come from morons
Hikaru Zero - Good point, but a compromise or principles is still not a good thing. Either way looks like I'm50% of the way to completing a self fullfilling prophecy. thanks for the kind intentions. Cooloner - I'm just glad here in canada we can delcare bankruptcy if we fall too far. not that IU want to but the options are there.\ Yoda lying in a feild - Living a little is basicly what I'm doing. tgrying to get out and keep on top of a mountain of things is rough though. I have reasons for my strong negative reaction against borrowing the cash, and it sucks realizing that the next year of my life most of my spare cash is going to repaying family. WHEE, but better to be an endentured slave to family rather than a faceless bank,.
Yep. Just remember this, which I learned in one of my classes -- It is unhealthy to have principals which you can waver from in extreme cases. Sticking to your principals *no matter what* is too much discipline -- it is simply unhealthy.
I'm willing to grant that the alternative, going bankrupt or seppuku would be less desirable. And failure to bend would have resulted n a complete defeat rather than a setback and swallowing of pride. Perhaps I should try and frame this positively as asking for help when I needed it, rather than seeing myself as a fucktard for getting this far into debt in the first place. What and where are you studying?
I do not have morals or principles in the typical sense; morality is something I don't even take seriously. It's largely because I disagree with most commonly held ethics, but also because I see morality as merely being a means to keep the cattle from straying too far from the herd, or so to speak.
well seems like the hippy forum is the place to go when you feel bad about borrowing money to pay off the man. thanks folks
You seem to be a genuinely nice person. I think what morality is intended to achieve you have mastered in your own attitude. Just remember that next time you get down on yourself
Computer Science (and philosophy) at RIT. =) And yes, a positive mindset that says "oh well" and starts thinking about how to NOT borrow money from the 'rents in the future -- that is a good mindset to have. =)
parents are their to provide for their children so when you fall on your ass they can pick you up so when their to old to take care of themselves you take that role for them not from frist hand experiance but i see people who get caught home by borrowing parents money but if just a one time action and you learn from your mistake then it was worth it, and then you can always pay them back and then pay them back everytime they say at a family gathering "remeber that time we loaned you money, dam you would of screwed up your life" jk lol i went into this thread with something i thought to be closer to my situation but i'll leave that to thread after my other one dies
