I love him but...feeling bored? why?

Hello...i have this problem(or at least i think its a real problem..) for say, almost a week now. ive been with my wonderful b/f for the past 5 months, and we are SO close. we hang out everyday, and share eveyrthing. he is the best boyfriend ever to me. me mean so much to eachother.

but now i'm feeling a bit..distant. im worried. doubtful. i started to wonder if we should really be together, if *I* want to still be with him. im starting to feel BORED, loosing intrest. these feelings practically came out of nowhere. i dont know why i feel this way. it COULD be a few things. i HAVE been depressed lately, and when i get depressed, i start thinking negitive about EVERYTHING. and these feelings of mine usually pop in all of my relationships, and i have never got past them. i start picking out the things WRONG with the guy. even though my boyfriend treats me perfect. maybe im scared because he talks about 'our future' alot(getting married,having kids, etc). i'm only 18! (hes 22). i'm also used to being single...i have a secret fear of being tied down to one man at an early age, because i just want to have fun, do my own thing, meet new guys. but then again, my boyfriend is so lovely, and i love him so much. the thing im scared about being in a relationship is not living my own life. but my boyfriend actualy HELPS me out in my life, helps me do what im good at. he doesnt hold me back.

im confused. any comments/suggestions/advice?

i was thinking of maybe taking a break so i can think it out. but how the hell do you go about telling that to your boyfriend?

THANKS SO MUCH TO ANYONE WHO REPLIES!

 

I know what you are talking about, I have had a similar relationship like the one that you are in now. I too am depressed, but its not just every so often, its usually almost all the time. During my relationship, I just plain lost interest. I didn't feel any sort of feelings for her except just the fact that she had a vagina. I tried taking a break, but it really didn't help anything (for me, anyways). She really got attached to me quickly and that is what made me break it off. I would say that you should still hang out with him and do your thing, but try not being with him as often? I think you might appreciate him more if you aren't always with him, because we all can take stuff for granted. And with the negative thinking... I'm still working on that one myself. Good luck.

 

ususally i get like that when things are getting real and very serious. i know im "young" but i am dating a guy who i wouldnt call just "another boyfriend." i tend to try to sabatoge things when maybe other aspects of my life arent going so great. if your feeling depressed, you may just be acting out on him because its the easiest thing to do.

only you know how you feel. if you truly think that youd be even a bit happier without him, then you have no reason to stay.

im a girl- i know sometimes we just get moody and dont feel loved enough.

whatever you do, you sound very sincere and youve got your head screwed on right. i wouldnt worry about it too much. things are only what you make of them.

 

Slow down. I don't mean to sound harsh but it does seem to me like you need a good dose of having nothing and a kick in the behind to realize how much you do have.

I remember doing the same when I was around 18 with my first serious boyfriend. I nitpicked everything, and questioned. In retrospect, he was one of the most dependable and faithful men I have ever been with.

I mean no offense but perhaps you need to explore your own self and the dating realm before you fully appreciate what your present bf has to offer.

You may also want to consider the balance between stability and chemistry or mental stimulation. Which of these are highest priority? If he's not meeting your needs, I think you know what to do.

 

My suggestion:

have some time apart, sheesh, of course youre bored, neither of you have anytrhing new to bring to the relationship... so theres nothing to say, nothing to find out and nothing to keep you on your toes!

you've got a lot of life, and heaps to acomplish, you dont need him there at every moment

 

Don't spend so much time with him... That's what i did. You'll just get bored of him, get used to him always being there for you, and eventually you'll loose any kind of tolerance for him .. You'll start telling him things you would never say to anyone you actually care for... Saw it a lot lately... Quite common for people of your age...

 

Take a break from each other, spend some time apart. This doesn't mean take a break from your relationship, of course, just give yourself time to miss him. If you're always together, then things start getting repetitive and then there's no time for you and no time to yourself.