my bf and i have sex often, once a day if its possible, sometimes more. usually a few times a week if we're busy (we dont live together). anyway things were fine until a few months ago, after having sex we were both pretty sore, and stayed sore for quite a long time. im fine now but he still gets really sore sometimes after sex. sometimes we are pretty rough but we try to remember to use lube and stuff. last time he was checked for stds he was clean and i know im clean! but we're both worried, as it doesnt seem like he is healing... he's like ripped parts of the skin and seems to have lots of redness. is this normal?! are there any creams which can help soothe? we spoke to some of his friends and while most of them have been sore before none of them for such a long time..
That's happened to me and a guy I was with before. I really love it rough-when both of you like it rough, you can both really get sore. I mean, the rough sex that gets you that way can be REALLY good-but you need to tone it down some for a while or you're just gonna get even more sore. If he's torn some of his skin he may need to see a doctor about-he definitely needs to put antibiotic ointment on it so that it doesn't get infected and maybe some hydrocortisone cream to make the swelling go down. You can get that stuff in any grocery store. And go easy on the sex for a while until some of the soreness goes away.
^ he doesnt suffer from eczema yeah i think maybe we should have a break but neither of us like that idea hah. it seems like the skin there takes so long to heal! when i was sore i just used Savlon antiseptic cream and that fixed me right up, he started using it but now says it isnt working for him, but i think his injuries are far worse than mine. will get him to try the hydrocortisone though.
