I'm not really sure what to do about this situation. I am 20 years old and there is this guy I kind of like but he is 49 and we have done stuff together and we like each other's personality and intersts but I dont know what I should do. I know I should not do anything with him because of his age but feelings cloud my judgement, any suggestions?
How would you consider a relationship between a man of 49 and a girl of 20?. I think love is nice but it doesn't need to be blind. I don't understand why so many young people have relationships with quite older people: there are so many differents in everything... When I thing about a relationship I always consider the future. What future there is in those kind of relationships?. My advise: forget him and find somene of your age, you'll be happier.
Only you can decide, what is right for you. If you feel that your partner has a role to play in your life, despite the obvious age difference and you are happy with it, go for it. Assuming that there is only future with someone belonging to your age group is wrong. There is no reason to believe that another 20 year old dude would appreciate you and care for you more than a guy hitting 50. (I would say, rather on the contrary.) One great thing to learn about gay relationships are that they are not fixed and written in stone. It is only up to you and your partner to define, what is it that your relationship should be like. A supportive, wise guy with lots of experience, maturity and stability in life can be a great asset, he is taking into the relationship, vs. your youth, energy, looks, whatever. Give it a serious thought. Guys who want 'a(ny) relationship' which usually means, ONS + one phone call are a dime a dozen. Only you know, who is the real keeper. KD
Let's see...you've done stuff together and you like each other's personality and interests. You also kind of like him. Those are all very good things. You also say that you know you shouldn't do anything with him because of his age. Says who? If he were twelve years old, then I would agree that you shouldn't do anything with him because of his age. You're of legal age and he's of legal age. It sounds to me like you're more concerned with what someone else might think, someone else who should mind his or her own business. If you like him and he likes you and you're both consenting adults, go for it.
I guess I am just looking at what other people will think, i've never thought of that before, and I guess I should not let that happen... LOL thanks all
I am not as old as your friend but I am involved with someone who is younger than I am and the same age as you. All i can say is that as much as I wish age didn't matter--it does. I thought my relationship transcended age barriers. I was wrong. If you are attracted to him--go for it. But!--if it's casual--whatever. If it's love--be so very very careful. Hearts break so easily.
There shouldn't be any hold ups when it comes to age, if 2 people love each other then that's all that matters.
Hi Jehryn, One question... Whats this with age??? Age doesnt matter whatever age you are if your both happy inside why let it bother you?? You shouldnt let your age gap bother you.. Trust me older people are A, Better at loving and B, Better at satisfying.. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 28.. We've had a few comments where his been called a nonse and has come close to ending it but its something ive learnt that people who call you those remarks are just jelous of your pride.. Jehryn my advice: GO FOR IT GET OUT THERE AND GIVE IT ALL YOU GOT YOU DESERVE IT =) Regards The_warden
