Hi all, I need some advice. I'm 18 and whilst playing football at the local astroturf, I met a boy a couple years younger than me who I felt attraction for. I consider myself straight, after all, I've had previously girlfriends. But, this one boy swung me the other way. lol. I don't think he is bisexual, but I really do fancy him and can't get him out of my mind!!! Arrggghh!! What should I do? Anyone? Please? Thanks!!!
I would think that you need to decide, in you, what you feel, first. If you think that you may have bi or homosexual feelings for this other person, then you will have to decide if you think he is receptive to being approached. Firstly.........figure out what you feel and why.
Are you asking for help comming to terms with the reality that no one is purely heterosexual? Or are you asking for tips on how to pick up cute men?
For starters, chat him up. I'm not saying to put the moves on him, but you might get more of an idea of what he's like and how he feels. You might also get a better read about your feelings for him.
Gaffer, your question is impossible or at the very least very difficult to answer without knowing you or the other guy. I think you are the best solution to your delema. obviously you have to get to know him better, try finding a personal common ground with him, i.e. studying together or whatever but you have to find a way to be with him "one on one". One thing you have in your favor is he is at that age when boys are willing to experiment. If you are a "good looking" guy and if he is any bit Bi or Gay chances are he'll take to you like a duck to water. Let's face it, how do you know he isn't feeling the same way about you or asking someone the same exact question you put to us? I'm just saying that because there had to be some kind of chemistry in the air between you two for him to spin your head around like that, don't you agree? Good luck and let us know how it turns out
I dont know man sounds bad to me, i mean if you are generally straight and you dont think your friend has the same feelings i'd save yourself the suffering that most likely will ensue, but as others have posted it's you who has to judge the situation and your feelings, are you sure that you dont just care for your friend alot and more then you have other male friends and it has just translated into sexual feelings?
the fact that he's younger than 18 could DEFINITELY present you with some troubles, much in the same way if often does with girls under 18. me, i'd stay away from him until he matures a bit more. could get icky. perhaps seek life elsewhere for a while, figure out what's going on in your own head without pulling a younger person into it.
In some ways I agree with KC, but if there is already a friendship with this guy then I don't really think it would be that weird. If you think you have a chance with this guy, might as well go for it, but go forth with caution.
it's just that a homophobic parent can make this into a scar/nightmare inducing complex for your intended friend. better to go for someone older.
