Cuddling

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My boyfriend and I cuddle with other people. But I tend to think of cuddling in two ways--romantic cuddling and non-romantic cuddling. There is a significant difference between the two, and you know when the line has been crossed. I mean, my boyfriend has a ton of gay friends that he cuddles with, and nobody thinks he's gay and is going to leave me for them. Ditto for me. At least at this point in time, we're comfortable enough in each other and in our relationship that we aren't worried that we're cuddling up to other people because we're not getting something out of each other. That's just me.

Although my ex boyfriend got upset with me sometimes for cuddling with my best (gay) friend Bob. Like we were going to run off together, or something. Oddly enough, Ryan never cuddled with me. Maybe he just had something against cuddling.

 

Cuddling should be innocent but some girls take it way to seriously. This one psycho who had a crush on me up until last week, asked me why I never hold her hand (or any pda) in public. I replied "we are just friends." earlier that day she yelled at me for looking at another girl and saying she was cute. "you know I get jealous" is what she said.

are you serious??? get real! my sister and her husband of five+ years look at girls together! and I've known this girl for less than a semester!

the last time we cuddled she started nibbling/biting at me (something she said she liked to do during sex)...while we were watching...curb your enthusiasm...this girl is wacked man. So when I went to the bathroom and came back, she got close to me. I said I needed my space and she moped.

so lets see..cuddling, something that can and should be innocent can lead to:
1. jealousy
2. horniness
3. moodiness
4. hypersensitivity
5. false sense of reality (like the no looking at girls statement)

when it leads to all five, you should stay away from that girl. Besides, even as a friendship things have been hot and cold. on for a week or two, off for a week. Cycle #3 of the on/off fiasco is likely coming to an end as she is trying to talk to me again. she imed me when I was gone and I forgot to put an away message up, so she likely thinks I am ignoring her. But if we can't maintain some sort of consistency as friends, why the hell does she want something more? she even told me once after "off time" one, "carl we are more than just friends" after a friend comment I made. wow. I did make out with her once or twice early on in the friendship and once after our first little "off" period when drunk thinking nothing of the previous week. But she is a boring kisser and I thought I made that obvious after stopping the kissing from escalating into a make out session. I'll take blame for that one for possibley leading her on. but I'm human.

 

Well, I don't think it has to do with cuddling itself, in your situation Carlfloyd... I think it just had to do with the girl. LOL