Hey all, Me and ma' gf have just split (1 year 10 month 2 weeks)...and i dont know how to feel... Yeah, I cried on the phone and that, but now i dont know how to feel... It kinda' all started with me askin' her last night if she was doin' anything today, as usual it was "Homework etc" so i thought ok then, "so what you doin' tomorrow night?"..."I dont know" x3... This afternoon, she phoned me asking if I wanted to go up town to see some old friends...but i wanted to see her, and when we go out...i never see her, she says "I wana see my mates"...fair enough, but i never saw her in ages...or atleast very rarely...so i started sayin shit like "so u can make plans to go out with ur mates but when it comes to me, it's like "I dont know"?"... I know this aint makin' much sense, but bare with me ok = )... Anyway, after we had an arguement...for a last resort to get at her, I said "Ive got 2 words for ya, It's Over" (i know i didnt mean it, but at the same time i did :S)...then a whole load of shit hit the fan...she said that she felt as if i was just a friend, a part of the family...that she couldnt show me that she loved me 'cos it would make me more "clingy"...that it doesnt feel the same as it did, and that she is always nasty to me... She would just loose her rag with me all the time...it was like she was two different people, one when with me and another when around her friends... anyway, there's a load more but i cant be bothered to type it lol...soz...cud ya give me any word on what ive said...thanx x
well it just kidna sounds like you dont have much goin on in your life right now (which is fine but im just sayin...) and so maybe you really cling on to the relatioships you have, excluseivly one with a girl. this type of needy attention gets boring to a girl. i hate to say it but a girl loves feeling the thrill of "oh i hope he likes me" and "i cant wait to see him today". if you make yourself to available, (in beginning stages of a relationship) it kind of ruins the element of thrill and suprise. find another girl, and let her know you are passionate about something other than her. girls love a guy with hopes and goals, and if nothing else, a good hobby.
I agree with dietcoketree... when a guy asks me to hangout all the time and just assumes i have no life other than him... it kinda makes me mad.. as with most other girls i know... and it is also important to remember that you can't control anyone else with what they're doing... idk if that is really the case here but from this short little story it seems like it is. and if it is and that is how she feels then id just lay off and ask her when she'd like to hangout... and just let her do her thing with her friends... cause at least for me and most other girls i know their friends are more important to them than their bf... so idk just think about it.
Sounds like she isn't the right one for ya. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with that, just means that the person for you is still out there somewhere. Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile and finds in your presence that life is worth while. So when you are lonely, remember it's true Somebody somewhere is thinking of you.
