You know about "active listening"? Like, saying things like "I see" to someone who's being heard out every so often? Well, dig this. What if a blind chick is venting to you about her problems? Somehow I don't think that saying "I see" over and over again will make her feel any better.
thats kinda funny but in a totally wrong sort of way. Guess you could say I feel ya, or I understand or the old ahhu ect. I knew only one blind person and as friends he was dating a girl I had known for years and teased her to as friends, anyway I used to tell him that we all would use a sack before we did ugly girls did he wear gloves! The girl would smack the shit out of me and I was laughing so hard I could not feel the pain at the time, lol. He laughed too but he tried to control his since long term no sex would have sucked! I let him drive my TA once, was a blast, just telling him when to turn and such, he and I loved it, we did donuts in the Safeway parking lot till the manager came out and sent us off. Kept wondering what if the cops came, an unlicensed blind driver, lol
That's even more fucked up than my post. Ooooh, we're all going to hell. But I have to admit, a blind person doing donuts through a parking lot does sound pretty cool.
active listening means more than saying 'i see' every time the person stops to draw a breath. it means the person who is listening, is really listening to the other persons issues and is saying things to draw the conversation out, get to the heart of the problem and maybe build up some emapthy. if you where with a blind person you could use reasurring touch, to show you where listen if s/he was comfortable with that, you could also say things like 'go on' and 'I understand' thats if you really do. i doubt a blind person would mind 'I see' being used once or twice. not being blind myself if you said 'I see' all the time, I'd end up thinking you clearly didn't S
this so called active listning of which you speak sounds like a way of pretending to hear what someone is saying when both speaker and listner know you don't really give a shit. if anything, when someone does that to me, i generaly realize it isn't going to do me a damd bit of good to try any harder to get through their thick head, and shut up and either go away myself or run them off, depending on location and circumstance. i don't quite see what this has to do with personal computers, which is the only use of the initials "p c" that has any real meaning. =^^= .../\...
this reminds me of a legaly blind friend of a friend who loved to go into the dmv and demand a copy of the drivers handbook in brail. =^^= .../\...
I used to work with a vertically challenged person (Midget then!), and she was telling somebody off one day. So I shouted over at her "Pick on somebody your own size!!!" ..... Yeah, knowing when to say "yes", "no", and "I understand" in all the right places is not polite or correct. Knowing when to tell somebody that you're not really interested in what they're saying without upsetting or offending them - That's the art.
