im almost 17..hes almost 20!!

Yes i need to know about this.. I wanna move out.. my mother is freakin awesomely bad strick on me!! i mean really she is.. n she doesnt know im dating Chris...But see i have morals and i stick to my morals.. i wont have sex till im married, i dont drink, smoke, or party!! its not me and im not into that stuff!! But i wanna go to college and become a cop or 2nd grade teacher! But i really wanna move out and i wanna do that when i turn 17! and i can move in with chris cuase he has a good paying job, decent apartment and everything!! i need help to know ways for me to stay with him and to where my mom cant make me leave!!! cause its really like a hell whole here! we are always fightin!! everyday..there is not one day we dont fight!!! n its horriable! im a good kid i can say that... i jus need to find a way so i can leave! i hate it at my house...

please sumone help me...

n there is also another problem...deals with sexrual abuse..imma post that sumwhere else..so u can look and read and see why else i wanna leave this hell whole!!<33

<3 Kayla Helen

 

!!!!six-up!!!!

 

I remember those days. I lived on my own right after high school and my 17 year old girlfriend hated her mom and wanted to move in with me. However, if she was gonna live with me, I wanted to get me some. I mean, why else would a guy want a girl to move in? (Remember, this is late teen, newly adult mentality).

If what you say is true regarding your morals, then you might find how hard it will be to keep those morals in check while maintaining a relationship, especially if you're living under the same roof. And his attitudes might change once you're living there and your mom's no longer a factor. What happens then? If you stick to your morals and he dumps you for someone who puts out, where will you go? Back to mom's so she can say "I told you so"? What if she doesn't take you back? A friend's house? What if you overstay your welcome there? Will you get a job AND finish school? Will you end up dropping out just to be able to make ends meet? If so, then what happens to your schooling for being a teacher or cop? You have to have a high school diploma to qualify for the police force. And you definitely need some college to become a teacher.

Don't be in such a hurry to get out of your mom's house. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Besides, how can you expect to be able to communicate with your mom if you can't even be honest with her about your boyfriend? You fight all the time, but you keep secrets from her. If you're keeping secrets about that, what is she getting pissed about that's not hidden from her? Somehow I have a feeling that the blame doesn't rest completely on your mom, right?

Just hang in there right now and don't rush to a decision that will probably come bite you in the ass later.

 

just go...

 

Anybody who wants to become a cop deserves bad advice at best.

Kill your boyfriend and steal his apartment. And maybe job (like dem Mexicans).

 

how the hell is that lieing???

 

"She doesn't even know I'm dating him."

So you're going on dates, going out, and not telling her where you are going.

Or talking on the phone with him and not telling her who he is.

That omission of truth is LYING.

Doesn't make you look very mature, hon.

 

Another thing, after reading your other thread about your step father:

Throwing yourself into a big mature adult relationship without giving yourself time to integrate into your role as an adult as well as dealing with the issues you undoubtedly have because of your step-father is only going to doom your relationship as well as doom your future goals.

You need to know who you are before you try to figure out who you are as part of a couple. You need to get over all of your fears, hang-ups, and crap before you take on someone else's.

Escaping a bad home life by running to a relatioinship is a sure road to ruin, hon. You can ask just about any woman on this forum. They will all tell you the same thing. Not because we don't want you to be happy, but because we know that you could be more happy in the long run just dealing with yourself first.

*hugs*

Need to talk? PM me.

 

oh kay well this is goin to sound crazy.. but ive only just STARTED to date this guy!!!! so i havnt had time to tell mom about him yet!! she hasnt asked me ?'s about a guy or nething.. we havnt went out on dates or nething! but im movin in with my friend tmrw night!!! N really this is the ONLY way i can do things.. so it seems.. i cant tell my mom to her face, see her cry, n ask me wat happend.. i just cant do that again!!! idk this is all soo confusing and scary...

i just wish i knew wat i should do!!!!!!

 

Tell you school councilor about what your dad is doing to you. They will fix it so you don't have to live with your family. They will also put you in touch with people who can help your relationship with your mother.

 

I did not know this was the same girl from the sexual abuse topic. Anyways do not move in with anyone unless you are alittle older, the reasons why are in the replies above from other posters. Like my dad use to tell me "take your time, take it easy, don't get in a hurry." (and he usually improvises alot of other stuff.)

 

and just a reminder

some people that might wanna be cops want to hunt down rapists and murderers. just remember that.

 

Hon, don't make rash decisions! Put more thought into this! because what if you do overstay your welcome? Or when you apply to college, how will you fill out certain paperwork without your mother? Even emancipated children must use parents income....It's a harsh situation, but you need to think!

 

Well see, they are prepared for me to stay for a longgg time...but really im just thinkin about a month or so... then talk to my mom about this.. but i dont know wat else to do....n trust me.. im the type that if i think ppl arnt comfterable..ill leave or just wont talk about it! i have manners! lol but yea.. i know wat you mean!!!!

 

Hon, you don't understand. While everyone might be having the best of intentions, once you enter into this situation, everything changes.

Plus, just up and leaving will only piss your mother off. I'd be very careful what you do. I'd try talking with your mother via a counselor before you do anything rash.

 

sooo youngggg....

 

Have you asked your partner what he thinks of this whole idea. Are you sure youre even ready to ask? You could be setting yourself up for major dissapointment.

I can sympathise, I too wat to move out of hoime, but the time just isnt right at the moment.

I don't think its fair to make yourself dependent on your boyfriedn and I can say, at age 20, going on 21 myself, I certainly am not ready to supposrt another person. I think you need to have a serisious and well thoiught out chat with your man before you make any decsions

 

After reviewing what you've said, I think that if youre going to move out, dont move in with your boyfriend until youre well ready... BOTH of you. Maybe an aunt or close friend or something but not a boyfreind

 

You just started dating him and you want to move in with him!? You don't even nkow this guy werry well! What arr you trying to do is stupid. First of all you'regoing to scare this guy of. What is things don't work out berween you? What are you going to do then?