Well, I am engaged to a man that I love very much. The problem is, that I don't feel like he is attracted to me when I am "hippie-like". Maybe it's my head. I just don't know what to do. I have talked to him, and he says it isn't so, but I just feel differently. I feel like we aren't as close. He is so NOT hippie...he shops at American Eagle...places like that. I wish I wasn't a hippie. I have tried to change, because I feel more confident and prettier when I am not "hippie", but I also feel kinda fake. I feel like the hippie is who I am. What should I do? Does anyone have any advice for me??
You should definitely be yourself. You can't change for someone else. Even if you try, you will just end up resenting that person.
Just be yourself is the answer regardless of what other people think about it. American eagle lol, just because he shops there for clothes why does it have to change everything. He sounds confused big timeee.
Maybe its not a simple issue there. Maybe he loves you and no matter what he loves you. I mean your kid can become a serial killer and you will never end your love you know. Not that he views you that way but rather you never said how else you are such as maybe more dressy ect. Men love a woman who dresses all high society but not daily. A womans cycle, morning sweats and a tank top messy hair barefoot (she is sexy hot) she showers puts on her business suit for work (skirt and jacket kind, slight heel, hair up) okay again hot, comes home, silk evening gown, hair up different way, high end jewels, high heels and yes real hot again, comes home from that dinner and back to her sexy sweats and tank top. Same woman 4 major changes. So see you have obviously more than one side as you say your "hippy" and your "?" so maybe your "?" is the side he sees more or finds more attractive or more able to relate to than your hippy side. Does not mean he does not love you for being a hippy too, just its a bit distant to him as he is not a hippy as you explain thus harder for him to be close to that side. I dont think he hates that side, or even dislikes that side of you, just he cant jump in on that side of you . You talked to him, he answered, he still wants to be with you, you want to be with him, your not having a problem, just jitters and seeing that love is not 100% perfect at all time. If your real scared and this is a real issue to you, take time, both of ya, keep talking to each other about it and live happily ever after.
If you're not yourself and feel like you have to fake who you are, you're going to end up unhappy in time because you just want to be yourself....and the relationship will suffer. (I've gone through this more times than I can count). You should nip this in the butt asap. it would suck to invest all this time into a realtionship and feel fake, than have the possibility of it ending, and you feeling better about yourself because you're you...and possibly the chance of finding the person who loves the real "hippie" you.
