Those who may have read my previous threads will know what im talking bout but i can start again with something stupid i just did I had a study session organised with a chic, but she just had to cancel due to her parents staying with her for rest on week. she didnt organise another one. at this study session i had planned to ask her out for a few drinks to celebrate her birthday last week. In my haste, i replied to her sms and pretty much said " thats ok. I was also gonna see if you wanted to meet up for drinks one night, i owe you some for your birthday. if u'd want to, Let me know and we can organise sumfin." have i just destroyed any chances with her, im looking at it as looking desperate and pathetic. I never wanted to ask this kinda stuff over a sms, im much better at it face to face, but i was left with no choice
LOL I have been at this point serveral times and I am tired of it. No, what you did was fine. If she doesn't respond with positive energy, then she is not a girl for you.
For those interested i got reply back and i guess its on a positive note. her reply was pretty much " thats sounds good, we can organise when we get back (to uni in 1 week), might have to be in a while tho cos im not a big drinker and drank a bit on sat, and wont feel like it for a while" at first i thought it was a polite no, but reading again, it does sound more on positive side tho in the back of mind i keep thinking (negative as i am) its just a reply thats pushes the 'problem' further down track for her
Confidence! Where's your confidence?! Stop second-guessing everything you do. There is nothing wrong with asking a girl out for some drinks. Never making a move would be destroying your chances with her. What you are doing now is increasing them (as long as you don't let this self-doubt get in the way).
Look its okay man, she did contact you back, she did not say sorry I do not drink but rather not a frequent drinker and she had time to develope an iron clad excuse so relax, roll with it and like the above posts, CONFIDENCE DUDE!
Shes probably been waiting for you to make just such an offer. You did everything exactly right. Seriously, you gotta just take chances sometimes. If she says no, she says no. If you never asked, youd never find out if she wouldve said yes.
you know, i once made plans with a guy to go out one saturday, but forgot that i was supposed to hang out with my room mates who were moving away the next day. so i had to cancel with this guy to go tot heir going away party. the guy wrote me off, figured i totally blew him off and didn't want to see him anymore. so when i called him the next week to set up another date, he was really thrilled. he was just so scared of me, i guess, to think i'd still wanna go out with him when i had so many other options. lacked a bit of confidence. thankfully i was ballsy and smart enough to call. but anyway, i totally married him.
funnily my confidence has grown over last week. You deffinately learn from your mistakes. My mistakes being this lack of confidence, i look back and just laugh at myself. Its was like i was going into battle or something and was gonna die.
do you have bad acne or are you fat or something? because regardless of what you say, you aren't confident. here are some hints - always be pursuing several girls at once. that way, rather than trying to "not come off desperate" you actually aren't desperate. and remember this: chicks are all the same, and there are always more.
yeah. when my hair starts going gray i'm going to become a guru and tour the nation's highschools giving love advice. i'll be dear abbey on wheels.
