if you like someone and they like you, how should you take it if you hear the person tells someone that they can see you two going out, not now in the future. ???? im wondering if i should jus stop pursueing the person in such a manner if theyre not yet ready for a relationship and if "not now" means theyre waiting for something better to come along. i doubt that though, because i have no reason at all to be distrustful, but i havent seen or heard from him 1 1/2 weeks, so that sucks too.
ahh it could be all kinds of different stuff, people have different reasons each time. Yeah maybe he or whomever is waiting, keeping their options open for that dreamboat. Usually if that is said in most cases it means "If I don't find my dream couple from here till ________, then I will take her".
Yeah but im sure hes not just placing you as second choice here. The reasoning could be that he himself just isnt ready to commit to a serious relationship and is just waiting till he knows he can. Maybe he also doesnt quite know that you like him and may be afraid or shy to do something about it.
If they mentioned "not now, in the future" and you haven't heard from them in weeks.. well, you have your answer. You're just not willing to face it. Instead of wasting your emotions, thank your stars that at least you have that bit of information and move on. It's not nice being thought of or treated as second best, or bottom of the priority list. It is true, he may have his reasons and it doesn't help to assume he's a terrible person. Likely he's not. But circumstances do not make the both of you as compatible as you think in his eyes. I disagree with the shyness. When someone likes you, they will overcome anything. I believe this and I've seen it, and felt it myself. For goodness sake, get out of this rut and find someone else who treats you like a queen.
Men. Who understands them. One time i was in a situation pretty much alike yours, but i got the anwser "I'm a damaged good" Now what does that mean?
Don't listen to "Spooner"....He obviously still needs to grow up a bit, and stop masturbating And as far as getting upset over someone you like, it sucks, yes. But llife goes on , you are so young. NEVER SETTLE, trust me keep your options open. Try not to look "needy", becaus ethat is a total turn off. You should be the one to play hard to get. Let him persue you. And as hard as it is Don't call him, and if he calls you make sure you sound busy, and that you need to "squeeze" him in your schedule. Go after someone else. Sounds like he may be "too busy" to care. Good Luck
Haha wow the timing of this post is incredible... I have been seeing this one girl for a few weeks and we are both kind of shy towards each other, and are not really opening up to each other to that large of an extent. I like her, but I have just been played for a fool so many times it makes it hard to, you know? But I'm going to tell her how I really feel pretty soon, so I'll see what happens after that. In the guys defense, he probably just doesn't know what he wants yet. Thats how I was the first couple weeks going out, but now I've overcome that stage (or maybe I'm just more cautious than most). passanger... I have read many of your posts, and I feel for you. I have been in a lonely situation for most of my life, and all I can say is that it can only get better. The guy who said he is a damaged good is either trying to push himself away from you for some random reason, or he himself is too insecure for a relationship. I've been there. Hope things get better.
Well if he feels he is not ready for some so called "acting relationship" maybe he is just into messing around with no complications. Not all men are clueless and that goes for women also, and so forth until the end of humanity. Passanger. It sounds to my ears that you have just had some bad experiences, we all have. I almost lost my life one day because of a girl, but I won't bore you with it like I already have.
I had a guy say this to me once....and it was because he was pursuing another girl. When she turned him down, he came back to me. Blech, men can be asses. Seriously, though it seems glim, there are a few good guys out there.....my advice is to stop pursuing this dude and look for one who treats you much better! You deserve it!
I'd ignore any second-hand gossip such and such told you so and so said about you. That's juvenile crap. Ignore it. Take dude at face value, what has he said to you?? I can totally relate to the "not now but maybe later" thing. I've probably said that myself, a long long time ago. Maybe he's on the rebound. Maybe he's just not wanting a serious relationship right now, and if he got with you he knows it would get very serious. Who knows? All you really know is what he says to you about himself. whenever a guy says to you that you are too good for him, he's telling the truth!! it means you should run away as fast as you can and never look back.
The best part about this guy is that he was my first love... I was so much in love, i can't even say... I couldn't imagine he'd ever want to be with me.... Still can't actually... So it's REALLY strange to read this Ain't gonaa start thinking about it now. It's been years now. I considered it as one of the many misteries in life
