One of my friends died this weekend from injuries sustained in a car crash. His memorial is on friday and I'm going. I'm not looking forward to it. I wasn't too close to him and we didn't talk very much, but I still feel like I need to be there.
thats a bummer dude im sorry. funerals are so much more excruciating when you were really close to the person, but it is hard either way.
im sorry to hear about your freind.. my dads was an open casket (sp?) and it was the scariest thing ive ever seen, to see someone youve known your whole life and hes there but hes dead?
Sorry to hear of your friend, Going to a funeral sort of gives you a different outlook towards Life...
I am a groundsman at a memorial. I'm around it all day every day. I will admit, it is very sobering but what gets to me the most is seeing a plate that reads Born: Sept 8, 1997 Died: Sept 9, 1997. I get fucking chills shooting through my body and tears almost come out.
i dont like going to funerals either. ive probably been to at least fifteen of them but luckily i havent been to one in three years. that can just stay that way for another ten. i used to walk around the cemetary near my house at the different tomb stones and the dates on them and although i never saw one that someone was alive one day i would see a lot of people that died when they were four, six, nine, fifteen, twenty- one and other young ages and that is really sad.
I am sorry about the loss of your friend too. My daughter is going thru this very same thing, but her friend was shot and killed. I am taking her and her friend on friday to his services. The family is a really great family, its going to be hard for her and well ya, hard for me too. it seems like this year has been a really bad year for our highschool aged kids, already three kids have died from her school and there have been countless others this year.. so sad
When I was 15, a girl in my class died in a car wreck on her way to school. She sat next to me in my first and second hour classes and in front of me in my 3rd hour class. She always annoyed me because she was a peppy cheer type that never shut up, but sometimes she was really amusing...It was the first time I ever had really dealt with death. I didn't really cry until I went to her funeral, then I think it was the shock of mortality that hit. When you're 15, you tend to hold the belief that you're invincible...But her funeral was the worst, just a preacher who didn't even know her, yelling at everyone to stop being sinners and be "saved" because things like that happen. Come on, man, a funeral's for remembering someone's life, not scaring people into believing a certain way in case they die the same way. Ack. No clergymen will even be allowed to step foot near my funeral, unless it's a family friend or something. Sorry to hear about your friend, though...And go and be at his funeral, even if you weren't close, if you feel you need to or should, by all means do. I hate funerals, too, but to me, they're pretty much the final closure.
Definitely be there. Showing you care means so much. Funerals. I've only been to two of them. One was my grandfather's, and the other was a friend two years older than I am, he was an identical twin. I was very early pregnant with my own twins at the time of the funeral. I nearly passed out when I went up to see him in the casket, my legs got super weak and my husband had to wrap his arm around my waist to keep me upright. It was just so chilling to me to see him like that, and look in front of me and see his identical twin brother just looking so lost and heartbroken. *shudders* I went over and hugged him and his mother and they were just sobbing. It was awful. {{{Hugs}}}
