Ok here is the story, I have a lot of feelings for this dude that happens to be my best friend. I'm attracted to him in a spiritual/emotional/physical way. We are EXACTLY the same. We feel the same, act the same, do the same things, ect...He's the guitarist/vocalist in the band I jam with. He told me that he doesn't want me as a g/f because it'll ruin the connection we have. I guess he's right, but how on earth does a girl control these feelings? I never felt this way before. I think this is making my loneliness worst because I keep seeing someone that I can't have. I keep thinking that he's into me, but just scared/insecure, but this could just be my emotions taking over. We spend a lot of time together and I love every minute of it. We always talk about how much we're blessed to know eachother. What should I do? How does a girl control/get rid of these feelings?
Get a hobby, take up bellydancing. Take a pottery class, learn to paint, or take Tai Chi. Or go see a therapist. Your problem is that you are sitting around dwelling on a fantasy relationship, that the other party has made clear isn't going to happen. Do something before you turn into the creepy, stalker girl.
Man... I am kinda going through the same thing. and it's fucking HARD. my boyfriend broke up with me, and refuses to talk to me now because i guess i pushed too hard. it sucks, because i was with him for..... over 2 years, talking every single day of it at least, and now, i havent talked to him in about 4 days, and it seems like an enternity. all you can do is let it go. be happy that you guys are at least friends, because i dont even have that. *sadface*
thanks for all the advice! blessings for all of you. I'll make some more clothes. clothing making is my fav hobby to do.
I totally know how that feels. I'm in love with a guy that I've known since he was born (he's 2 weeks younger than me). But I don't see it happening anytime soon... There are other men and other things to obsess over. And peacelovebarefeet, I'm sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend broke up.
I would dive into something that really brings you a lot of joy. Don't supress your feelings but find a creative outlet for them. Focus on sewing for a while. I bet if you pull away from him a little he'll probably start missing all your vibes and then realize what he's missing.
I feel for you, but could we please keep the relationship stuff in the Relationship forum? Not a big thing, but it would be more appropriate there?
I don't necessarily think he's not into you, but for whatever reason he has it's just not the time... he has made it clear. There are so many people out there, and so many things other than men and relationships to focuse on... with the whole world at our fingertips it's funny how we get all caught up over one person... but I guess that's life LOL.
