My Ex-bestfriend always tried to out do me. When we were little, if I did something, she did it better and rubbed it in my face. Now, 8 years later, I finally find a passion for studying religion and I just happen to mention it to her... 2 days later she brings up the fact she's takeing a Criminal Justice class and how much she's learning. I know she just says it to try and outdo me... I absolutely despise her for it. Maybe she really is into this Criminal Justice thing... but she has to rub it in my face right after I tell her about my religious passion! What a Bitch. I guess it proves people never change!
Religion and Criminal Justice can be two very different things. Mention to her that you're really interested in becoming a Nazi and hope that she will follow suit.
You must be pretty self-centered if you think the only reason you're friend is interested in Criminal Justice is to out do you.
I know what you mean. I used always hate whomever my best friend would be at the time in high school because I was so competitive. Believe it or not you are probobly just as catty as her. I realized how incredibly stupid I was and how many friendships I have blown because of my competitive nature. Try supporting her and really taking an interest into what shes doing. Be happy with what you are doing. Obviously both of you need a self-esteem bost so start supporting each others efforts so you can feel secure in your friendship.
chicks are like this. we pretend we arent like this...but we all are with our "best friends" I have 2 good friends inwhich our relationship is competitive.A trio of obnoxiousness...we have been this way for nearly 15 years. we all simply have to out do each other in everything...but since I have kids and a husband and they are single with successful careers...I'm kinda out of the competition...we took different paths...but it's funny to watch them both run for the roses. I wouldnt sweat it..everyone wants to be recognized...obviously including you. I bet your friend is feeling the same way you do right now. Just concentrate on your goals rather then worry about her stealing your thunder.
let her do what she does and you continue with your choices. theres always going to be someone that will out do you. i think you sound a little jealous, and ive been in a similar situation so i understand. but dont waste your engery being angry. if she wants to flaunt these things in your face, ignore it...she will eventually see that you no longer care and will give up. just continue doing what you are really intrested in and you will do better bc it is your natural intrest.
I really really really take offense to that. That is such a nonsensical and ignorant blanket statement. Criminal Justice is a very important field and we need decent people working in it. The area of Criminal Justice(prosecutors,judges,police,detectives..ect) is what helps bust child molestors, rapists, and other violent offenders. Yes there is corruption....but there is corruption in EVERYTHING. Even the most noble of causes or careers reeks of corruption sometimes. The more good people, that truly want to help,that enlist in the Criminal Justice ranks...the less corruption that can occur. You arent a nazi just because you want to devote your career life to bringing down the festering boils in humanity.
Yes, Cynical, you completely misinterpreted my statement. The sentences "Religion and Criminal Justice can be two very different things" and "Mention to her that you're really interested in becoming a Nazi and hope that she will follow suit" have nothing to do with eachother. I was not trying to imply that people in the criminal justice field are Nazi's.
hehe I am sorry that so should have not required further explanation. I know she most likely just skimmed over the post and her comprehension level is not that low, but I can still laugh.
I really wouldn't say that I'm jealous of her. I'm just tired of playing these games. I can't do anything without her trying to outdo me. I'm so proud and happy for her if this is what she wants to do. But it seems like everytime I become interested in something, At first it was the Spice Girls, then marbles, then make-up, then French class, then grades in general, then boys, now my religious studies vs her Criminal Justice ones. It's fine if she really liked all these things, but she always rubbed it in my face when she became better than me. And that's what broke up our friendship 3 years ago. And even now that we aren't friends anymore, she's still doing it. I guess I figured she would have found someone else to try to outdo in the past few years. I guess I was wrong. I'm not mad at her or angry. I'm just tired of always having her show off. I don't think, I may have, probibly have, just don't remember, ever showing off or rubbing things in her face. I've always told her my interests and hoped she found something interesting about it that I could discuss with her. Maybe I am over judgeing the situation, maybe she just wanted to share her interests with me. But still the fact remains that she's always been one to show off. And it's so strange that now, right after I tell her my thoughts on religion, she decides to gloat about Criminal Justice! Eeeh, I hate having friends! **sarcasim**
