I 've been thinking abt this and still I havent found the answer myself. If anyone of you could help me? There is this guy, who is cute, kind of popular, i think..but I am not really sexually attracted to him. But I did feel kinda happy and enoyable when i was with him. IS THAT POSSIBLE? I think he was interested in having sex with me. Having sex with him would be alright for me, but the feeling that hes having sex with many guys and I would be a small part in his big guy-conquer-victory made me feel bad, althoughI am still looking for someone nice to have my first sex (although first sex is usually not great, i heard...) and he seems a nice guy... I know that sounds so confusing...I am confusing..and I am so confused of myself too. One day, I told him " there is someone that i kinda like..or might dont..i m not sure..someone who i feel its interesting and cheerful when im with..but its not the sex that i m really keen on..." I know I shouldnt have told that. I dont know why i said that. "maybe I wanted to let him know that i might be interested in him but i wanted something a little more serious, not just one part of his conquer...and to really know if its just the sex that he was interested in"--> this is something I myself figured out to explain to myself for my action telling him that. He s kinda very proud and exciting abt wining...I might have made him feel bad for being so "desperate" -- the word that he would use. Now I feel bad. I might lose a friend!
let me guess.. ur in ur teens?? anway i think of it like this.. possible.. yes... but if he goes out with girls alot or talks about girls alot.. its not probable... but ya.. alot of things are possible.. for all we know u could be going out with him by next week.. or not... it might not be a smart idea though.. me being 14 myself.. i wouldnt come out to anyone in my school... there is only 2 people i feel comfterable [sp] telling and one knows.. the other..im thinking of teling him soon.. i hope that helps a little...
bj_Eric, He sounds like a player, from what you say. I mean, if you have any reservations about him at all, you don't want him to be your first. You got plenty of time, little buddy. If he's out to conquer then you risk getting hurt. You'll be much more satisfied if you think of this always as a gift you share with someone, not a prize for jumping through hoops. Stay away from the prize seekers. If he uses words like "desperate", well, he sounds like he's too fast for a boy your age. Wait for the right boy and the right time. Somebody you've known for a long time and had time to hang out with and everything. The lively, bouncy boys have a tendency to be like a ball -they're fun to play with but they bounce out of your life as soon as they bounce in.
thanks JI G and Mychal for your replies! I m not a teenager anymore. Im turning 23 soon. I came out to myself very late, a year ago. I know that I m totally lack of experience in my love life. But Im getting better really fast.Im not that hurry to have sex. I have a lot of time, thats true.. I got the feeling that hes a player sometimes. But just remember the way he smiled at me when we were together, really sweet and nice. I know that hes having sex with other guys. thats what I dont like at all --> i think i like him a little, thats why dont like that fact. Walk away from this guy is the best! I wont hurt myself! But still I wanna get a little closer to him. I just really want to experience more, to deal with different ppl and different situation to grow up in my love life. I want to be ready when my special someone comes. Do I sound crazy? One good thing is that Im not really sexually actracted to him...and I dont do the sex when I dont really want it! If I dont like him more then we are just normal friends , i guess...
i re-read my post and i think i sounded like a jerk.. srry if i came off as an ass... srry but i cant really help anymore.. not enough life experience...
