im all mixed up with emotions right now. ill just get to the point: so today was saturday and theres nothing id rather do with my day off then hang with my bf. so, i wake up this morning and go to work and get off around 11am, and call him. no answer. so im like great. so i drive around for a while hoping he'll call, but he doesnt. (meanwhile, im calling him every couple minutes. i hate that i do that cause nagging bugs the crap outta me, but i cant help it) so i decide to go to my aunts house and visit her. then i leave there, still no call. finally he calls me around 3 and is like "sorry i just woke up and my dad wants to go to the movies with me so ill call you when i get outta that" and im like alright, whatever. he doesnt call me until 9:30 at night, when im lying in bed trying to decide if im just a dumbass for just literally WAITING the day away for him, and i dont even see him. im in love. very deeply. it's very scary to me, giving someone power over you like that, especially involentarily (because ive just fallen so hard for him) is hard to get through the day with. i HATE that im happy and sad and anxious and carefree and totally mixed up all the time but yet id never give it up. HOW TO DEAL!?!?!? im literally a MESS!!
um, whats the problem, am i missing something here...? are you mad cause he went to the movies his dad? and how does that make you a mess...? I guess im just confused cause he called you and told you what he was doing and then called you later...sorry, but i just dont see anything wrong with that at all... maybe you should step outside of the box and start living a life for you and not based on someone else, know what i mean...
yeah, sounds like you're a little too dependent on him. it's best to have your own separate lives, you shouldn't depend on him too much to provide you with something to do or just cuz you can't stand his independence from you. When you depend on people too much that means you're weak and I hate this quality in people. well, hate's a strong word but I can't stand girls who are so dependent on their bf's they can't do anything for themselves anymore. i have a few friends like this. I'm not saying you are this way, but you sounded a bit like this in your post so you may be headed down that path, i don't know. but i do understand, I've been a "mess" too. ;-)
more advice I'm sure you already know but it's a mistake people make over and over again..... Do not smother/suffocate him. he will fight for his freedom and will fall out of love with you in the process. When something is a burden to you the first thing you want to do is get rid of it, right?
calling over and over and over again will drive any sane person to the "run away run away!" stage, they'll feel clung to, controlled and all around unhappy leave a message or let caller id let him know who you are. If that doesn't work, send him an email - at least htere is something waiting for him to read and respond to when he can, rather than calling him constantly. I would not be able to date someone who called me constantly like that, it would be far far far too cling for me to manage
i definately think that you need to let him live his life and not have someone "suffocating" him. i definately would want my space in this situation... i think you are blowing this a little out of proportion... to be honest.
WOW.... yea im sorry about that post guys, it was a big rant over nothing. i HATE people like the one i portrayed in this thread.. looking back (okay, i know it was just yesterday) i realize i was just sad cause i planned the day around me and him and none of it worked out (i barely see him otherwise with school and work and all). thanks for listening to my ridiculous post and being honest with me! hipforums rocks!! lol anyways.
Haha, shit like that has been known to happen. I think you understand all this anyway, so I'm just going to spare the long advice. I'm just glad that you are in love. I know it can be very hard at times, but I say it's well worth it. Best of luck to you guys!
dont be like me, i was engaged at 14 enjoy life have fun dont look for love cause it wont come till you stop looking. Arent surprises great? and uh.. what the hell are you pissed about? cause he spent time with his dad? hey you know where my kids dad was when i was pregnant? HOOTERS. chillax
....youve really got me all wrong. i was in just a weird mood and my feeligns threw me for a loop- i know ive got a great guy and hed never do anything to hurt me. but thanks for realizing, along with me, that theres NOTHING to be worried about Butterfly.
