I looked through my boyfriend's phone...need advice

And i found something that wasn't there before. what I later found out was his ex-girlfriends number. At the time when i found the number listed as her first inniatial i was suspicious and asked him who it was. he got very defensive and said "i dont give a fuck" and then said he didn't know who it was.

now Im quite upset about this, I also found pictures on myspace with him flirting with her from when we were going out.

so what's your opinion of this situation? I am jumping to conclusions or is something going on? Do I confront him? how would I do such a thing without seeming like a psycho-stalker?

 

your a fuckin distrusting snoop,, an if ya confronted me with it,, id tell ya to hit the fuckin highway..

you didnt trust him to begin with or ya wouldnt have been snooping..

you want advice??

dont be snooping thru other peoples shit!!

so now what?? if ya confront him,, no matter if he is fuckin her,,your just as scummy as he is..

 

Feel free to jump to conclusions.. I think you've seen enough to show that he's either reminiscing or he's at least thinking he could be somewhere else..

Not sure you can act aggressively on what you've found.. There doesn't seem to be much in he way of proof that he's seeing his ex again, so I'd find something to nail him down properly. Proof...

He doesn't sound like that explaining type, so maybe if and when you've found what you're looking for, you'd need a quick way of dealing with this..

Hope this helps... I'm really sorry for what you're going through.

 

Stop snooping through his stuff. If you don't trust him, dump him, don't put him through that. My ex had to keep my number hidden in his phone under my boyfriend's name so his g/f wouldn't go psycho on him. It's not healthy for him to feel he has to hide it from you and it's no wonder he does, it seems you're extremely nosey. You have no idea how innocent it might be. Sometimes people like to keep in contact with their ex's. If he shows you any reason to distrust him, then you should end it. My boyfriend keeps up with a few of his ex's and I've never found any reason to snoop through any of his things. Except his pictures. Because he collects porn and I tease him. Hehe. Anyway, don't take this as a personal attack, I just really think that if you're so worried, you should confront him or leave him. Tell him you were just browsing through MySpace and happened to find those pictures. Be passive with your choice of words and tone of voice and tell him you were just curious about them. For all you know, it could be very innocent. And if it's not, then you've got every right to kick him to the curb.

 

ok never mind. when i was going through his phone he was sitting next to me. He didn't mind. he goes through mine too. its something we do as a joke.

 

Peace Attack... then why did u post the first post?
I think many of the responses you got here, were rather harsh. It's one thing to be a snoop, but another to look into something if your having suspiscions ... in that case you wouldnt be a "snoop". Only a fool trusts when theres something to be suspiscious about.

And yeah, I've looked into my (now ex) boyfriend's phone when we were together, he left it at my place one time. And I feel completely justified for it because he was acting suspiscious. And I found alot of numbers and times when he had been calling girls ...... .and yet he used to tell me he was sooo busy at work and didnt have time to call me. And yeah that really fucking hurt. Eventually I got sick of the whole damn thing and broke it off.

People are only trustworthy when they can prove themselves trustworthy, and anyone who acts suspiscious has something to hide usually. Yeah, I know all about it. I watched my mother put up with my dad's shit all my life.........

So, fuck anyone that thinks that being suspiscious is being a snoop. If you've ever been in a relationship where someone was cheating on you, you might know how it feels.

 

Okay, now that you've posted again, I understand what you're saying. But really, you should confront him. If he knows you've seen it, then you weren't snooping and he couldn't accuse you of that. But being paranoid that he's being unfaithful isn't going to do your relationship any good at all. Trust is a big part of a relationship and the lack thereof can hurt your relationship badly. Sorry if you were offended or I came off as harsh. And free2fly, just because one guy's cheated on you doesn't mean they all will and if you hold a suspicious attitude, you're never going to have a healthy relationship. I've been cheated on not once, but twice (by two different guys), but I trust fully that my current boyfriend is completely faithful to me. Not all guys are scum, you know.

 

Yeah I admittedly do have some issues ..... and yeah, ... I know theyre not all scum ... lol...

 

I think I need a beer after this one on here, maybe it will make alot more sense to me then.

 

Dilligaf after readin this thread,,


"i doubt it.."

 

no good can come from looking through other peoples things (even with their permission) because no matter what you find someone will always get mad/upset...

 

its always a bad move when you start going through eachothers phones my two room mates last year did that to eachother, it started out as a joke but then became a serious problem with jealousy and led to many fights, just dont do it

 

tell me about it, my friend went through my drawer and found his year old underware i had taken from his hamper..ahhhh, smelly fresh...


seriously though, going through peoples things no matter who it is will almost not turn out so good..especially phones, notebooks, computer and such...its a cat fight/fist to cuffs episode waiting to happen...

 

You steal year old underwear? Do you sniff them too?

 

duh....

 

call cheaters

 

id just relax about it, people can be friends with their ex girlfriend you know?

 

Well turns out I was over-reacting and it wasnt even her number. I should give my boyfriend a little more credit.

 

UMMMM? Yeah I dont get it... Why did this thread get started?

From what I have read so far, only one word comes to mind:


KARMA

What goes around comes around,
to each yen there is a yang,
no banana without a peel....