unable to reach orgasm...

Hello. I'm new here.
I need some help concerning orgasm. I read some posts in this forum and everybody seem to have many experiences of orgasm but I've still never reached it. I've been making love with my boyfriend a couple of times and it feels great, but I know it's still not the real deal. Yesterday, he tried to lick my pussy but it didn't really feel good, though it didn't feel bad either. I believe the clitoris stimulation is just too intense for me. It's been the same problem when I was with another partner before. I prefer fingering and penetration. But with penetration, though my boyfriend is doing all he can, I just can't reach orgasm. Is this normal? Maybe should I try other positions or something? Any tips? I would really like to feel what is this thing so many girls are talking about, this thing called orgasm.

Thanks a lot

 

You can`t reach orgasm when fingered either?

 

I don't think it's a unusual thing- some girls never reach orgasm. You probably just need to find the way most suited to you. I have limited sexual knowleage due to being a virgin by the way! Experement with positions and try and find what feels good. When it feels good enjoy it and don't try to force it to become an orgasm (I have tried and if you think about it too much it won't happen!). Good luck!

 

Yeah, like MoonMaiden said, some women dont ever reach orgasm.
I find the best positions to reach orgasm are doggy and if you click here and scroll down to the one that says womens legs over man's shoulders - that gets me everytime. Just explore different positions and find what works for you.

 

yeah the best thing you can do is just experiement wiht different positons becasue when me and my boyfreind first had sex..it was kinda boring, but now its amazing! we tried all of this new shit and dif positions..go to a book store adn get a book called 357 sex tips: one for each day, turst me it will help!!

 

UMMM HELLZ YAH TO DOGGY STYLE!!! ITS YA KNOW AMAZING!!

 

I'm the only person that's ever made me reach orgasm. It's sad because my boyfriend's really good, but it just doesn't do it. No matter what. This used to really bother me, but i'm getting used it.
Sometimes if you want something done right, you've gotta do it yourself.

 

1. communication: talk about tis 'no problem' with your boyfriend.
2. when fingering or licking, find out what you like and tell it to your boyfriend... make him aware that he has to follow your build up signals. and not just - go at it as good as he can to make it work. cause when licking the clit - there sould have been a build up - else a woman, like you say, can't stand the sensation. a girl has to be teased and warmed up beofre you can go to that spot.
3. when having sex it's fairly common that girls don't have an orgasm. so help yourself out by rubbing your clitoris while having sex with your boyfriend. it will help you, and make him feel better about himself.

don't strife for orgasm - just start slow and have nice time together - that willlead to an orgasm eventualy. cause the first ting that prevents an orgasm is STRESS about having / giving one .

 

thats what I love about being a man. No matter what happens during sex, male orgasm is 100% guaranteed Unless her husband comes home early..

 

Find out what you like by yourself first. Experiment with 'Mr Palmer'. Then yu can tell him what he needs to do to push your buttons

 

How old are you?

Alot of women cant until age 19-20+

 

i cant and im 41!!!!!

 

its not that rare man, its actually quite common

 

I'm having this problem too!!!! Damn...
It's strange to me, because before I lost my virginity I came so easily and pretty often, now nothing does it for me, no fingering or penetration or masturbation can make me climax, but even weirder, sex is always on my mind!!
Is this some kind of fase?? I hope so...

I though maybe getting tipsy would do it, I get so hot inside when I drink a little wine... Gonna try that as soon as possible.

 

No its quite common that women dont

Try relaxing - do a bit of DIY
Dont drink alcohol because that normally relax's you but will stop you getting happy lol

Let me have a think and a chat to my girlmates and im sure we can come up with a few more things lol x

 

LOL you are 19... you need a more experienced man is all...

 

MOST women who have this type of problem is because of physical abuse or physical trauma...

I was unlucky to have had one of both... one who was able to fix her problem after therapy...

The girl who had physical trauma had fallen off the pedals of her bike onto the cross bar and permanently damaged the nerves in her clit.

The other girl was a long-time girlfriend who, no matter what I did, could not cum... I broke up with her, because I knew something was wrong, she then confided in me that she thought it was because of what happened to her...

she sought professional help (for rape from her borthers best friend), and was able to have him incarcerated, and help herself have orgasms...

we were back together until I joined the military, and from then on, she was a fountain of cum...

If you really have NEVER had what you feel is an orgasm seek professional help.. doctor or otherwise... they CAN help you...

 

First of all, I wasnt judging anyone, I was making a joke at her current lovers expense... fucking deal with it...

Take your I am HOT SHIT attitude and try and impress someone else with it...
My point was that even if you start having sex at say 12 and have twice the numbers of partners the person who is more than twce your age (32 vs 12), it would take you a minimum of half the difference in years to reach the same number of partners... in this case 10 years (20 years difference divided by 2 for you so the higher math doesnt kill you)... SO.. on average most people who are older have much more experience...

Where do you think repect your elders comment actually came from?

So before you go off half-cocked, know WTF you are talking about.

 

You are right, you can't help the ignorent... use a spell checker and/or grammar check next time...

LOL

:sunglasse

 

yeah, its really hard for me to reach orgasm. usually i can make myself cum, but it always takes someone else awhile to figure out what buttons to push in order to make me orgasm. and its completely impossible for me to cum without clitoral stimulation in there someway. im still waiting for the guy who can make me cum pretty much everytime we have sex i think i probably just need time to experiment and find out what works for me.. which is probably true for you also.