Hey there y'all, thanks in advance for reading my relationship problem thread... It's pretty rare I get any problems this way, and this one is one I wouldn't mind some input on . Okay, there's this girl (let's call her Susie) who is always asking to hang out with me, watch movies, etc... She's a pretty cool gal, likes video games and stuff (which is fun), she acts a little shallow sometimes but I think she's an intelligent person. Whenever I go hang out with her she sends those little signals... head on shoulder, laughing and making long eye contact, etc etc. I haven't responded at all as of yet because, well, I'm really not sure what I think. Frankly, I've always considered myself best when alone (I've had a few girlfriends, but nothing too serious, just things that sort of happened) - I'm not anti-social too much, I just find that people to communicate deeply and broadly to are very hard to find. I like to sink into my own thoughts and not have to worry about the crap that most relationships seem to turn into (am I too affectionate? too distant? should i do this? do that? blah blah blah stress). I'm also at university right now, I leave on the 21st to go back home (6000 kilometers away, on the other side of Canada), and I really don't know if I want to attempt to maintain a long-distance relationship. I don't know if I can really deal with it right now - what do you guys think? What would you do? I'm still not sure whether I really like her enough to be in a relationship, but I also wouldn't rule it out, you know? But the long distance thing is a bummer, plus relationships in general are stressful fucking things (in my limited experience). Anyhow, thanks for both letting my vent and letting me get my thoughts organized and written down. Respond however you'd like!
Hmm, reading over this, I think that like 10 days is a little short to allow a relationship to ever blossom to the point of being able to withstand a 4 month-long separation... Especially if I'm not even sure whether I want to get involved at this point!
Don't push things one way or the other. If you like hanging out with her, keep doing it! Some of my best friends in college and hs were guys. Some times we'd have little crushes on each other, but nothing really more. It made hanging out more fun. Just let the relationship go where it goes. Don't think too much on it. Have fun. It might turn into something more, or you might have a really cool friend for a long time. As far as the distance thing-will you be heading back after summer? Keep in touch via email. If it fizzles, then it fizzles. You might find that you miss her like crazy, though!
Hey, sugrmag, what song is the quote in your sig from? Is it a Pavement song...? Because they are great. Great advice... It definetly sounds best to just let the flow go. It's wierd actually just sitting back and relaxing in relationships, ahahah. I am coming back to university in September, as is she, by the way. Thanks again. I'm off to bed, have an exam at 9.00 AM tomorrow .
my son met a girl from hong kong on a trip to paris ..they went out for 2 weeks ......they carried on a long distance relationship ..and hong kong is as far from east coast canada as you can get ..........they travelled to visit ..him there and her here .....did it work ????.....well,she has been my daughter in law for 2 years now so i guess it did whatever you decide i wish you the best of luck in your decision
