My mom pisses me off...

I live with my girlfriend, but because we're still in school, we live with my mom (and my grandma). Me and my girlfriend enjoy burning incense (we like the smell). A couple of days ago, my mom told me to close the door when I was burning it, because she couldn't take the smell. The fact that I feel like throwing up every fucking time she cooks meat doesn't matter, but anyway, I agreed. So today, I closed the door to burn some patchouli incense and she told me to stop cause the whole house was smelling (did NOT) and she was suffocating. I was upset, told her I had closed the door as asked, but she got mad and went to her room. I'll have to tell my girlfriend when she get back from work (no doubt she'll be pissed) to decide what we'll do. I really can't wait to move out! Anyway, what would YOU do?

 

if it is somebody elses home you respect thier wishes

 

My parents won't let me burn incense either. But it's their house, their rules. I don't see the problem. You can't expect your family to just change to meet your needs, you don't own that house, you should be grateful that they're allowing you guys to live there so you can finish off school. If you don't like the way things are, move out. If you can't move out, just put up the incense until you can afford to do so.

 

what would i do?
id have thrown yer disrepectful ass out at the very least 4 years ago..

yer 24??


yeah right..

if ya are,,, in my opinion,,.. this makes you look like a selfish self centered irresponsible human being..

i live with my girlfreind,, but we live with my mom an granma??

WTF??

i guess the dumbing down of america has found its way across the northern border.??

 

some of us are terribly sensitive to smells, particularly incense. It's not unreasonable that she might get incredibly painful headaches or even migraines from your incense. I don't use the stuff because I'm quite sensitive, but some scented candles are ok for me. I dont' use them when my mom is home though, since she's even more sensitive to scent than I am

 

that's right. and dude, i cant believe you're 24. yer complaint is quite unreasonable.

 

You could consider burning some of the milder scented candles instead of incense. They still smell nice, and the smell won't carry so far that it'll bother your mother, if you keep you door closed.

 

If that's the only thing she does that makes you mad, you're pretty well off. Respect your mother's wishes. It IS her home, after all.

 

Try to understand her... That would be the best thing I can tell to you.
Peace

 

I know that if someone has popery in their house and Im in the same room as it my nose starts to burn. And just like so many other posters have said respect her wishes, its her house. her rules!

 

move out over burning incense? Are you for real?

 

Well....your sig area does say "respect and understanding will get you a long way..."

do you work and pay rent?

who is supporting the two of you?

that should answer whose rules get followed

ON the OTHER HAND:

I LOVE patchouli, our entire house smells like patch and lavendar, it is the only scent we ever wear

AND:

some people's sinuses are totally affected from incense, candles, etc. We can not burn incense or candles in the house, triggers our dear daughters allergies/mild asthma: coughing, congestion, wheezing, misery.

Not to sound too mean BUT I BET your mom and grandma can HARDLY WAIT for you and the girlfriend to MOVE OUT!

So move out already, it really is better. It is very difficult to have your ADULT kids living in YOUR HOME. I KNOW. It is just BETTER for everybody to have their own place, whenever possible.

Sorry about the entire meat cooking odor for you--if you don't contribute $$ to the household I guess that is just one more thing to PUT UP WITH since you are there for free?

Really, get your own place, go to school part time, whatever it takes. Would be so much better.

 

hahahahahahahaha

 

i'd beat the hell out of you, personally.

 

You live in her house. If she wants to cook meat and it bothers you so much, you are free to live elsewhere. If incense makes HER ill, in HER house, than she has every right to not allow it.

I have severe migraines and my children are not allowed to burn incense or put on perfume. My house, my illness, that's the way it goes. The only thing is, I don't get any grirf over it. (They occasionally complain about the "no perfume, no cologne" rule, but, they abide by it anyway.) My kids are glad to have a place to live, rent free (they are all still in school) and they know that the adults who own the house make the rules.

Is incense THAT big of a deal for you? Get your own place, then. Your mother doens't have to put up with it. I had been out or my mother's house a good year, owned my own house, was in a stable relationship, finished my BS degree, was working on my M.S. and had already had my first child when I was 24. Honey, grow up. If I had really wanted to burn incense (something MY parents didn't allow in their house, eihter) then I could have done it in my OWN house.

That's life.

 

You're 24 and you live with your mom?!?!?!?!? Wtf!!?!?!? Freeloader. And who does school when they're 24? Unless you mean collage in which case, don't they have dorms?

 

Moving out is harder than you think, as you will too soon discover grasshopper.

 

Na, not if you just go. I'm seriously considering dropping out of society anyway.

 

moving out is fine, untill you get sick.

 

When I get sick, I look for a toilet.