Quick question for you homos

piano is that your real picture?

 

Hi darklunacy,

your friend is not kidding. He's using the old joke as a cover for something that he would like very much to happen. It's a safe way for him to sound you out.

I could be wrong but I've seen this sort of thing before. I've done this sort of thing before.

I think he's not kidding.

So instead of letting it turn into something awkward that ruins your friendship, tell him straight up that the joke has gotten old and that it's never gonna happen. It may hurt his feelings but if you're good friends he'll get over it.

And I accept that you meant no offense by the "you homos" reference but, regardless, it is offensive. This is the internet. We aren't privy to your forthright manner and disregard for pc. I understand. I have the same disregard for pc. But on the internet, with people you don't know, sometimes that disregard comes across as bigotry. I'm not accusing you of anything; I'm only suggesting a little tact. I hope the advice is taken in the spirit that it's given.

Good luck with your friend.

Okay

 

Dark,

Ah yes, the old, "Dude, are you gonna pound my ass or not?" running joke. Personally, I've lived with guys who I called my best friends, and taken that joke to it's extremes. I'm bisexual, yet it in those terms with those people, the homo jokes were just that, jokes; hetero-guys just being hetero-guys. My friends understood that too. In fact, I couldn't have been sexually attracted to them any more than I could've been attracted to my own brothers... That's called being secure in your friendships.

I've also had the occasion to look someone in the face and call them "A annoying fucking faggot," and mean it very negatively. The person I said that to WAS being an annoying faggot. He knew full well that I sometimes sleep with guys too. What can I say.... I call it as I see it. Chris Rock once said, "Well, there's niggers... and then there's black people." Same idea.


Bottom line - you're the final decision maker in whether or not a particular situation is sexually charged or not. If you're not interested in having sex with someone, male or female, be secure enough in yourself to difuse the situation. It's really okay to ask "Are you being serious about that?" and let then know that you're not interested... or curious... Is the idea of another guy thinking you're attractive the worst thing in the world? Take a step back, relax, and allow yourself to be flattered... doesn't mean you have to fuck him... it doesn't mean your gay if you gracefully accept affection.

In the end, the questions you ask are best answered by yourself, and not people who have already taken the long road.

peace...

 

And one more thing......Stop acting black...

 

...what?

 

blank haha

 

If this is turning into a fighting thread can we please stop.. Were ment to be a friendly community.. If someone is causing offence then ignore them.. Its the best way to be

Lets ave a group hug and make up =)

 

They're just being over-sensitive for the sake of it, if I'd made this post I'd have got away with it because I'm just all-out awesome.

But yeah, your friend's probably pissing about, that or he's just not been getting any lately. Personally I only hit on people if I think they'd be swayed, and it's worked on occasion, but it's pretty obvious if I've asked 100 times and they're still not up for it that I should just quit.

 

If you want to know whether your friend is interested in getting it on with you, there's an easy and foolproof way to find out--ask him!

Tell him how you feel and let him know what's up. If he's your friend, it won't be a problem.

 

I'm glad you've seen sense there - you just can't say those things I'm afraid. And you shouldn't be categorising people in order to call them faggots. Would you also call anyone who's black a n*gga because "they" do - "oh but not in a derogatory way"!!! It doesn't work that way.

 

I say he can. I talk that way with my friends all that time, they know I don't mind if it's used in fun or whatever, and that there will be certain times when it's inappropriate. The fact is, if I'd used those words in a post instead of this guy, you'd be the one looking like an idiot right now. He obviously wasn't using them in a derogatory way, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it, but we all have to stand up for those who might possibly not have known that, and for what? What do we ever get back from these mythical sensitive people who might be offended by anything? When do they ever do us a fucking favour?

Seriously, the whole black/n*gga thing is very very slightly different because you pretty much know when you meet someone whether they're black or not in a way that you don't with homosexuality - ordinarily, it's not visibly obvious what side someone's bread's buttered - but in every other sense, I'd say homosexuals objecting to the use of the word "faggot" or whatever irrespective of the context and intent is just as retarded as the whole controversy around the N-word. To be perfectly frank, I'd hope that we won't make the same mistake by pillorying people for using slang terms that we ourselves do often use, as I don't think it's done the black community many favours.

 

I think it is offensive to be called in such derogatory terms and being thus classified. I am a human being who is Gay or Homosexual. That is it... Being called other names is purely homophobic. And to those members of my community who let themselves called otherwise please don't because you are just encourageing the abuse... HTD