I've just ditched a massive load of text I was about to post. In incerdible brief. I'm 30, only had 3 serious relationships, all picked up from mates, not 'won' through pick up. Mates moved away, no real opportunity this time other than to create dates and meet in pubs, clubs, library, supermarket etc. Tired of waiting for that 'chance encounter' it will never happen for me until I put effort in. I have more confidence now that ever, and have got to a 'now or never' point in my life where I have to prove if I can do this or not. I've always kept myself to myslef and I never really spoke to girls in pubs, and now I have to. I went around the pubs with my friend the other day (I know you're going to say get another mate, but regardless, read on) he is much like me, a bit quiet, but a nice lad. He was saying "well, I might join a few organisations, things to do on a sunday, might be some single girls there"..... you see, he's given up on pubs and clubs..... but what I mean is, given up without trying at all. I said to him "Mate... there are loads of girls in these pubs......hundreds, and if we were able to play the game right, we should be going home with phone numbers as often as we can manage new dates, how many girls have we actually spoken to before we are trying to prove that it doesn't work and giving up ?" ..... to which he repied "well, ok, none.... we spoke to pretty much none !" - - and this was the case night after night, year after year. I have to be more impulsive, have a few choice (but simple) comments up my sleave and not be shy of firing these off to any suitable females that come within striking distance, in a confident and casual fashion. "hey, how are you doing, I've seen you in here a few times, you must like it ?" tap on shoulder..... "excuse me, so you know what this song is called?" "Do you know any decent clubs around here?" "Do you know how to get to the (name a local pub)?" in a joking fashion " I was wonderng if you'd like to buy me a drink ?" ------------ do you think I'm on the right lines, just keeping it light hearted and casual, just to get used to the responses I get and see where that leads me, can you think of anything else along similar lines that I can arm myself with as another option ? Sorry to be so inexperienced in this area, I deal with young women all the time at work, but the key difference is that they've approached me, and I'm knowledgable about what they're asking, plus I want their money !
Actually, I'm curious.... Do you HAVE TO look for girls at pubs and clubs? Because I think your friend had a really good idea when he wanted to join various organized groups.
lines are so over used, just be you, be sincere, if your looking to get your dick fiddled with, just say it, hell she can slap ya and that weeds out that one.
I'd try places other than clubs/bars. honestly, none of my female friends go there with the hope of being picked up at the bar. Most of the guys there are incredibly scuzzy so we just tune 'em out. My friends and I go to the bar to dance, or to a pub to hang out with each other, not to find a potential date. Other places are better sources, clubs n the like
Just chill out. I recommend groups/organizations/affiliations. You will automatically (usually) share one very strong cause or similarity by being there in the first place. STOP acting like you're actually on the prowl. It's a turn off. Before focussing on what you're going to say, focus on where you're meeting these girls. You cannot practice your lines without a reason. People are living, breathing creatures with their own busy lives with desires and emotions. If yours is to practice a pick up, what are you picking them up for? Sex? A date? Something that may last? I'm not sure I understand the point of this exercise. As far as I can see this is as self-centered as it can get. Treat people with respect, and get to know them for the people they are as living entities. People have better things to do than be a test crash dummy to your conversation skills. You will attract airheads, and the others will see right through you, mate.
if you want a real relationship, you won't find it in a bar. You might find someone who will let you buy her drinks and take her home for one night, if you play that game right, but I'm guessing that's not what you want, or you'd be getting it already? right? so the deal is to go places and do things where you will meet people (even women) who share your interests, just like your friend said. Don't rely on fancy words or pick up lines, just be yourself. Because if you pretend to be someone you are not, you have to keep pretending or the relationship is over.
Go to Google, click on "Groups," and do a search for alt.seduction.fast. Once you reach that forum, search for "Mystery." He is the world's best pick-up artist. The man is a seduction genius. If you are looking to game the bars/clubs, that's his expertise. Other seduction experts specialize in other areas, but Mystery is the master when it comes to bars/clubs. Keep in mind that bars/clubs attract women who, if interested in you, will use you to release some sexual tension. That's if you even score in a bar/club. As ihmurria astutely pointed out, most pretty girls are defensive in these places because they know what guys are after. So if you are going to try gaming these venues, your game better be solid. You can also use it as practice. Joining clubs and organizations might be a better long-term solution for you. By the way, Hannah: I think you were a bit harsh to the poster. You are obviously very knowledgeable on the workings of people, but there's nothing wrong with asking for some guidance. Some people really are clueless. Everyone starts from scratch.
