A friend of mine has had trust issues with her boyfriend in the past, nothing major and they are starting to get serious. She asked me if I thought it was wrong of her to create a fake person (who is actually her) and message her b/f to see what kind of conversations he has with other people. I wasn't sure how I felt about this and couldn't give her any advice. What are your takes on it?
I had a couple of girls try to pull that on me. I dumped both of them as soon as they revealed themselves. It's a violation, no trust, no relationship.
Hmm..toughie. Personally I wouldn't do that, what would happen if he found out it was her...then it could be really bad. I understand about those trust issues, but maybe this is something she should just talk about with him. A relationship is suppose to be based on trust and communication..so if it is meant to work out then they should be able to communicate with eachother. Also, if I ever found out my girlfriend didn't trust me that much I would also have done the same as the other person
hmmmmmm. i don't know where i stand on that. i'd like to think all is fair in love and war, but then again she would be LYING to her boyfriend multiple times to get him to slip up . if this was police work it would probably be considered entrapment. my final judgement is nay. now if she had a friend who her bf didnt know, and her friend talked to him without mentioning she knows his gf (and without denying it too) then i geuss it would be fair...but still....do flirty conversations on the internet really count as cheating? i wouldnt be too happy if i had a gf and she was flirting with other guys on the net, but id also realise that thye can't provide anything for her except for conversation stimulus. even if other people were to get her hot n horny through convo she'd probably only take it out on me :H so i don't really see the problem.
These are all valid points that I have brought up to her, including the fact that he may be upset at what she is doing when and if he finds out, but at the same time, if that does happen then he would be upset because he is doing something that is 'wrong' to begin with or something that he can be 'caught' doing. So, not to say that what she is doing isn't wrong, but if he cares for her then he shouldn't be doing something that violates the relationship to begin with. Not an easy answer and lots to consider, keep the opinions coming, I may let her read this thread so she can come to her own conclusion.
True again. i hope he isn't doing anything so there isnt' any hurt. But, I still think that doing it to him like that is a bad idea. What if he really isn't doing anything though and he finds out later that she did that too him? I could see a lot of problems happening because of that. These are just my opinions but I still don't think I would do it. I really feel that relationship is based on trust, and if I didn't trust my partner, I wouldn't be going out with them...
