has it happened to you before?

my last relationship i had a girlfriend, and i'm not one of those outgoing guys, and she had a previous boyfriend that was VERY outgoing. and then when i don't act like him she gets in a hissy fit that i'm not like him. now she's goin out with him and i have a new girlfriend, and now this girlfriend is getting pissed cuz i'm not acting like him. i think it's bullshit and i'm gettin pissed. i was just wondering if anyone has had something similar happen to them.

 

No I can;t say I have. But would you rather be hated for who you are than something your not?

 

Geez, man, it sounds like you really should dump this chick and go after someone who's not obsessed with someone else. Don't be someone you're not just cuz someone wants you to be that way. Find someone who likes you. I, personally, get creeped out everytime my boyfriend makes any hint of a comparison between me and his ex-fiancee because I am not her and never will be.

 

I'll agree with the others. Do yourself a favor and find someone who will like you for you. It sucks to be compared to someone else when you are being yourself. My ex-boyfriend would constantly bring up his ex and how i am like her in some ways. TOTALLY pissed me off and he knew it. He needed to realize he wasn't with her anymore.

 

That's quite a deep comment. While I do agree to an extent, it's wonderful when it's both, isn't it?

Why is this sad? Birds of a feather flock together, as the saying goes. Sometimes.
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By the way, Ledzeppelinlover, reserved but firm men are a turn on. Find someone else who can appreciate you for being you (and whatever you may represent to them). Sometimes women want men who are assertive, not just "outgoing". Risk-takers. But as you both get older, the risk-taking takes too much energy. No one likes a pushover, not that you are one. Be confident and not cocky. I think younger women enjoy men who are a bit louder? And are able to make a scene, be witty, and stand out from the crowd.

You'll find not all women are like that. You may also learn that "outgoing" can be a euphemism for the non-committing type and those who can never sit still nor stay loyal. ADD? Yea, right. I like my man steady, quiet and assertive. Just be yourself and I think you will find women who will appreciate you fully eventually. All the best.

 

I suggest you tell her straight that you are who you are, and that you shouldn't have to be someone else just to win her approval!!!
SHE is the one who is in the wrong, and if that is how she is going to be with you, then you are better off without her.

If she cared about you that much, she would love you for who you are. In my opinion, she ain't worth going out with.

Getting pissed isn't the answer!!!
Just dump her, and enjoy being single. One day, you might find the right girl, you never know.

I ain't one for pulling all the birds, and I am not very outgoing neither, but I do understand.

Just dump her mate, and walk away.

 

if she doesntliek you for you then why are you interested? are u lookin for a serious relationship or just someone to mess around with?

 

Think about it man, you're only 13, chicks at that age aren't that mature. Now I may be only 16, and I dont mean to sound like those elitist cocks who boast about being 3 years older than the young dude. But keep in mind she's only 13, relationships at 13 usually are pretty immature affairs

 

erhmm yeah I've had guys that spoil the crap outta me and ones that don't...hmmm what is a girl gonna choose lol? Seriously if a guy doesn't want to put in the effort and adore me I will move on to the next one that does...his loss if he is too lazy, scared or insecure to love me the way I need to be loved. I need to get back out there and date though this being alone shit has been great but in all reality I am bored with it and am done waiting.