is she trying to make me go crazy?

i live with my mother. i'm trying to get back on my feet. she said she'd help me.. but damn it.. she's not.

i pay all the bills. clean everything. all i ask in return is for her to watch my kids in the evenings so i can work. i have a monday through friday 7am to 5pm babysitter. saturday and sunday i need her help after 5pm. so she only has to watch them part of the time. but no

she is at my brothers house 40 miles away TOO DRUNK to drive home so i can go to work. she knew i had to go to work this afternoon.. i was supposed to be there at 5 it's now 6:17..

i called her at 4.. "where are you?" ..

"almost to your brothers, i'll be home soon."

i just called her again and she says she's too drunk to drive home.. WHAT THE FUCK??

if she didn't want to help me she should have just let me go to the homeless shelter like i had planned on doing when i was evicted.
she's my mother and i try to respect her and her house rules even though i pay the bills.. i never ask her to watch my kids for anything BUT going to work.

i'm soo pissed right now.. i need to get the hell out of here.. asap

 

can't you rent somwhere or get a caravan - does your mom often drink or was that a one off,sorry its left you in the shit though

 

Your kids are not your parents responsibility. easy as that. don't rely on them. they did their time.

cold world?

for sure.

 

are there any programs there to help out single mothers? I know my mom was on a program that helped her find affordable housing and also reimbursed something like $50 or $100 of our grocery bills when I was much smaller.

 

i'm suprised there aren't more s.mothers/fathers clubs around u.s - maybe you could start one - theres one in uk called gingerbread - and they sorta rely on each other - go on holidays and look after each others kids or look after them altogether kind of thing and have quite a fun time apparently - not that alot of people use it so much

 

i'm on every list for help there is..


was on the low income child care list for nearly 4 years before i got help

i'm on the low income housing list.. been on there since 1999.. they wouldn't even help me when i got evicted from a low income apartment that i couldn't afford after my boyfriend left me :&

yeah i'ma fucking mess. i'm having a real hard time being a "normal" grown up.

i need a second job, and i'm not finding anything. i'm about to just ask all the customers where i work.. "you know anyone hiring?"


my mom.. real nice lady. don't get me wrong. but when it comes to me.. shes really.. hhmm well she likes to promise and not deliever.

not like i'm asking her to watch my kids so i can go out and party it up. i never ask her that. never.

i'm just frustrated more than anything.

i called work and told them. almost started crying. i fear being fired over shit like this.

 

Yeah. Been there done that. Was a single dad for almost 10 years. There are clubs for single parents, problem is most of them are either Christian based or are hook up clubs.

I wish I had something good to tell you. We lost our home twice and I sent the kids to live with my sister and I lived and worked out of my van until we had enough money for a new place. Stay calm and smile through it.

 

doesn't every state have some type of welfare program that helps pay for daycare.

 

thanks..


just sucks. someone says they'll halp and they don't

shit i even used to go out of my way to help her watch my little brother a few years ago.

i just need to get away from her.. and stay away.

 

yes i'm finally getting help from them.. but my daycare provider is only monday through friday.. like most of them.
i could call and ask if they have weekend sitters i guess.

juggling and drama

 

you're making her crazy too. dont hate me.

 

i might be.. but argh!

i think she just likes to tell others that she's helping me.. and then she doesn't.

i feel like a little kid.. i wanna run away

thats not going to solve anything

 

coz shes yer parent...my mom "dare not" judge me, coz i chose to be a bastard...

 

same here after my parents first got divorced. I would look into that. If you are already paying the bills there (assuming you mean the communal bills and not your personal bills) then why would you not be able to afford to move out? Maybe go on roomates.com and find somone else with kids to go and find a house to rent together?

I live at home too and there were some rough times but since I insisted on and started paying rent we have gotten along so much better and both she and I knowing that I have the financial ability to move out if need be makes for mutual respect as oppossed to the this is my house therefor you will follow my rules thing. I am still curteous and call if I am out late and clean up her mess a lot because she is a slob in the kitchen, let's the garbage get full ect...a lot of the things she does bothers me A LOT but likewise I love my mom and dogs.
So if you are paying rent already at a market rate why not just move?

 

): I'm really sorry I didn't read the whole thing before I posted. not to try and pry but do you get child support?

 

bills come to about 600 a month


yes i get child support BUT i'm on welfare until the end of the month.. i did some math and i'm getting "robbed" being on welfare

welfare i get roughly 700 a month, cash aid and food stamps
i don't get the child support since i'm on welfare, the state gets that money.. which comes to a little over 1000 a month.. where's that other 300 going?

the low income apartment i had was/is 920 a month. plus bills.. i can't afford that.. even with welfare/child support and a job..

california cost too much to live here


my friend told me to go on dr phil .. all he is gonna say is "how's that workin' for ya?" ... well duh it's not..

i'm not trying to bitch and complain.. just trying to figure out how to do this and not rely on anyone.. but thats impossible with 3 kids

 

I can see why you would be pissed. Ironic that the more mothers have to work the less child care services there are. getting to be a third world country.
cost so damn much to move too, makes it almost imposible for the working class to save enough and still pay there bills. hope you had a good day anyway

 

i did.. in a weird way.


just frustrated with things is all

 

I live in san diego and I feel yah it's expensive ): I live at home and pay 500 a month and know that if I moved out that having a roomate situation in a house as nice as this would cost me thousands a month but then again I've lived in not so nice areas before but still it was like 1500 a month for a tiny house

 

i shoulda moved to that co-op that doesn't even exist