Why did he do this??(help me)

Hey ya'll...
I have this huge problem,and it's so hard for me to live with myself,to ea,to sleep, to work..All I think about is this.I am at a loss for words,and totally confused. Let me start. I have this long distance relationship,and an online one. We're making plans to be together,so this is serious..not the average 14 year old boyfriend-girlfriend business.
This man tells me that I am the woman that he wants to share his life with,
he says I am what and who he been looking for his whole life.
Like finding me, is finding a rare diamond in some sense.
That if I ever disappeared from his life,and left him suddenly he just wouldn't
know what to do,he said he'd be so so sad.He constantly tells me how much he loves me, and he misses me,even though we didn't meet yet.
He says sometimes he can feel me so near of him,yet I am far..

That is just a basis of him. Now the problem.
Ok, I asked him to do something for me..I asked him for about a month,
he just did not do this thing I asked him. And he kept saying he would.
Now about a week ago I told him directly, 'If you don't do what I asked you by the end of the week,I do not talk or contact you for a whole week.'
The end of the week came,he did not do it,and I told him again.
He said to me, he would respect that. then he asked why I have to do this to him?.. And made a comment that I am always angry. When he logged off I wrote him an email explaining in detail why I was doing that again..to refresh his memory.. The next day, I got a message from him,in an email.

You know what is said? 'Ok.' That is it. Nothing more in that freakin' message, just 'ok.' I mean,why waste your time and energy saying that,'ok' ? Don't even write me back if that is all you are saying..I mean it's not even saying nothing, for gods' sake..!! I am totally clueless, I miss him deeply and love him deeply,I just am very angry..I don't know why he did that to me.. I'm not talking to him,unless he makes an attempt to contact me. Is this right?

I would like some major advice, or in-sight please..
I'm so very confused and lost right now, a little support would be nice.

 

Haha, his name doesn't start with a C does it??


Anyway, reading that really got me to thinking about something.. You can't always trust ppl on the internet.. If the dude really cares enough about you he'd be getting in contact with you.. On here a person can be anything or anyone they want to be, regardless of them telling you 'i'm telling you the truth'.. Maybe this guy was serious and got scared and backed out or maybe he was just full of shit.. Please, PLEASE try not to be so serious with someone over the net, trust me it can cause problems..

 

I still can't work out how people can have online relationships.....it's such a silly and pointless thing.

 

don't contact him!!! oh my god ignore him. I am sooooo sick of men's mind games seriously fuck this...I am so stupid and am so hoping the offer is still open for tonight-seriously find somone new neither of us deserve this shit. I'm so over it all

 

AMEN!

 

ditto

What was the thing you asked him to do, if you don't mind me prying? Sometimes us chicks can make some crazy demands too

 

Please re-read your post and try and understand when taken out of context about you asking him to do such and such and him not fulfilling whatever it is, people can't really help you here.

Understandably you're hurt and confused with whichever it was that happened but without knowing the full story, you DO come across as an angry and demanding person.

Oh please. - regarding about men and mindgames. What about women and their mindgames? It's ridiculous.

The way you described requesting your thing of him sounds like you were trying to train a dog. Don't you think he deserves a little respect? Some kind asking, and not a command?

Again, I have no idea what passed between you two but this is my first impression from your tone and choice of words here.

Even though others can be stubborn and unreasonable, often we don't realize how unreasonable we can be. People aren't dirt or machines. Don't treat them that way. So he doesn't want to do this thing - are you looking for some proof of his love?

Pardon the cynicism, but I'm already suspicious of you. Not him.

 

ok..
I asked him many many times to send me pics of him because I sent him many of me, I asked for them in color..I just think it is fair that he sends me an equal amount of him. he insists i have one though, he said it's only one yes,but i still have one and it's clear. he wants one of me where he can see my whole body including my face,not just my face..
i agree that it is stupid ok.. but now, i just want to talk to him again.
i miss him so much. let me give ya'll an example of something..

one day, i didn't go online to talk to him for just one night.
the next night i came on and he was like, 'ohh baby, i missed you yesterday.'
that was just one night.. it has been 3 days since i last spoke with him,and 3 days since i wrote him that letter, and all he said the next day was. 'ok.'
and not a message since that..

i'm wondering , should i just talk to him now,and admit it was stupid?
or would that make me seem like a coward?..
should i just wait until next week like i said i would do?

please please someone help me with that, that is what i need help with..
i'm on the verge of writing him an email so i really need advice immediately.
thanks bunches

 

Let me get this straight...

You're making plans to be together with someone you've never seen a picture of, let alone someone you've never met in person?

With all due respect, that's pretty silly...

I have nothing more to say.

 

i think that it probably isn't real love i mean i'm only thirteen but still. an online relationship where people lie all the time just make themselves look better.


peace,
Chronic

 

Yeah, uh huh, sure.

 

Hi Gypsy. Here's a story of what happened with me.

I had one relationship through knowing someone from a site. It was actually a very rewarding one also that lasted over a year (after meeting in person and having a real time relationship however). Would I do something like that again? No.

Zeppelin was correct. It is very easy not only to lie about a person's identity and appearance, but it is very easy for YOU to make assumptions about their character.

You're playing with fire also as there is no way you can verify the information he's giving you. His date of birth? How many siblings does he have? What does he do? (work) Where is he? Is he married and cheating on a wife or girlfriend? Is he an alcoholic, a narcissist? How old is he? What is his history?

Who is he?

Though that picture deal may sound a bit ridiculous for others I know very well what you're asking, and unfortunately I don't think it's unreasonable in the least.

Those situations are horribly awkward. Do you actually see yourself or foresee yourself going through all these emotions without never REALLY knowing?

Go ahead, flirt and play online if you like. But the moment it becomes couply or you expect some exclusivity, get jealous, or even think it is an actual relationship, you're digging your own grave.

Regarding the pictures, frankly it's a little idiotic insisting for them when he is not comfortable giving them to you. He could be an honest guy who is freaked out by your insistence. Or he could be homicidal and afraid to be recognized. Maybe he likes Photoshop and doesn't have time to tweak other photos?

You be the judge.