My mother is stalking me

I left home at the end of January this year to go live with my uncle. I had lived with my 3 siblings (1 brother, 2 sisters; one other brother left when he was 17 and the other one lives with my mother's financee), my mom, and my grandmother. My mother barely gave a damn about us, she would always choose her fiancee's matters over her own childrens', and my grandmother had a temper. She liked to beat us with a bamboo backscratcher. Well, I couldn't take it, so I left. My mother is stalking me now, and calling my friend's houses, looking for me, even though I told her that I wasn't where she was calling at. I don't know what to do. My 12-year-old sister is turning into a tramp, my 18-year-old brother is turning suicidal and cutting himself horribly on his arms, and I feel as if I'm going insane. I shouldn't have to fear my mother and grandmother, but I do. She just won't leave me alone. What should I do?

 

Sorry you got to go through this. But honestly all you can do is get a restraning order against them. Or thats all i know to do. Sorry about your brother. I guess you could try to be there for him, just reasure him that you care about him. Maybe get him help? Im really don't know what to do. I really am sorry. Hope some how everything works out for you. Good luck.

 

thanks, i'm trying. i'm getting support and love from all my friends. they're the best i could hope for!

 

Belladonna,
I don't know how old you are so I'll just the answer best I can.
First, if your Mother is neglecting or abusing you and the other children,
she needs to be reported.Sounds like her actions are causing you and your siblings to cry out for help. Especially your brother who is suicidal. And the 12 year old sister
needs some quick intervention before her actions ruin her life. There are probably
local programs in your area that are more than willing to help you.
And it is true that if you have just cause, a restraining order can be obtained.
Just be 100% sure of your feelings and the facts before you do anything.
Because once something has been said or done, it can't be taken back.

 

I'm 19, turning 20 this Saturday. And I know, once it's all said and done, it can't be taken back. That's what scares me. I mean, my sisters will have somewhere to go if taken away, and two of my brothers are legal, but my 15-year-old brother would have no where to go. And that is what's stopping me. My sisters have their dad, but that guy isn't legally my brother's father or guardian. And I don't want him seperated from his sisters and the rest of the family.

 

Looks like a hard situation to be in that's for sure. Being that you are 20, have
you considered him living with you if ya'll could find a place ? Know it's alot
of responsibility but at least he would be with a family member that cares.

 

i would really like that, but i'm staying with my best friend's family and i just lost my job. so, i would have no income, and there would be no room for him here, sadly.

 

Hopefully things will get better for you and for him.
Stay strong...
Hippietoad

 

call the police and get a restraining or personal protection order against her, call the police and child protective services on the abusive grandmother, suicidal brother, not much you can do about 12 yr. old sister, let protective services know

 

Sounds pretty chaotic. I'd look into getting therapy at least for your suicidal brother.

 

he's been in therapy and a mental institution twice. my two sisters would have their father to go to, but my 15-year-old brother would have no place to go, unless my uncle takes him in...