Hubby doesnt like to give oral NE more

My husband and i have had a healthy sex drive up until our first son was born we wold have sex ever day several times a day. That dwinddled to a mear 2 maybe if im lucky 2-3 times a week that was a really big cut back 4 me. I NEED sex. The first several years we were seeing eachother he always wanted to go down on me i refused and finally gave in.

Now he wont do it unless i reciprocate. 69 or nothing. (2 in the past to years and he hasnt even tried to make me cum)im furious i always would do it to make him happy and im a very sexual person and im just not happy.

I broke down asking him why he wouldnt do it anymore. He said that their is a smell and taste that he cant get over well ill tell you what men dont taste or smell that great either and i know what a woman tastes like.

I hated going down on him i hate the cum taste but i suck it up and do it to please him and give him the pleasure that he cant give back to me and hasnt.
How can he just keep taking and asking for head if he cant give (i gave him head 3-4 times a week for the past 2 years)

 

The way I see it is, if he's not putting out, you shouldn't either. Not to pry, but do you wash daily and make sure you're clean before doing anything? I suggest using a good anti-bacterial soap in the shower. Of course, he could just be a wuss like my ex-boyfriend who told me that it was just weird. I've always kept myself extremely clean...so I suppose some guys just can't take it. It's a load of shit, though, if he expects head and doesn't expect to return the favor.

How old is he? Maybe his sex drive is just at a different stage than your own. My boyfriend is 23 and we have the issue where I want it a lot and he's only interested every now and then. My sex drive is a lot higher than his, not to mention sex has never been a big thing on his list of "to-do's". Weird...but I totally understand where you're coming from, it can be really frustrating when you want it and your guy doesn't.

 

Yeah i do thats the thing if anything my taste and scent has changed he said that it did im thinking i just had a baby about 3 months ago maybe my hormones are still crazy but hormones during pregancy change everything.

As far as the age thing he is 23 too thats strange u would figure the older men have less sex drive.

My bestfriend says that i should really figure out what we can do about this but he wont talk and thats not the only issue.it seems as though he just has no opinion or even a comment for anything.except "i dont wanna talk" I need to pee""i need a cigarette" " I dont wanna argue" ALL EXCUSES EVERYDAY ALL DAY FOR YEARS.

 

Hun I totally hear where you're coming from.... My hubby and I have been married now for over 2 years.. he was all over me all the time... he could never get enough...we loved pleasuring each other as much as we loved recieving it...now things are different....not only has my hubby given up giving me oral...but he seems to have lost interest in sex with me too.. the kicker here it that he is constantly hounding me for blowjobs...and he says that since I take care of my self during the day (vibrator) that he doesnt need to pleasure me when he comes home...I'm trying really hard not to resent this but i feel that it is unfair and a little hurtful...i know that I have gained weight since we got married and that I probably dont look as attractive as I once did...but I cant help but see the connection of his lack of interest the more weight I put on...
I've tried every thing i can think of to make him want to pleasure me again.. I've even talked to him about it several times.. but its no use... so here I am with my vibrator and a non-exsistant sex life...
By the way.. about the smell and taste, that is direstly connected to hormones... it will clear up in time... in the meantime, try drinking lots of pineapple juice it seems to make it taste better.. and that goes for men as well...also stay away from coffee, beer..etc.. they also tend to add a strange odour...I hope you have better luck that i do...

 

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Ha.. I just took your advise... and it totally worked!! He came home from work, bugging me about oral again and I said " I think its my turn for a change.. if you want it so bad you're going to have to give me some pleasure too." lol You should have seen the look on his face... I'm a sub and I rarely take initiative in the bed room.. i think i found a side of me I didnt know existed...thanks for the advise!

 

Not much of a future, if you ask me. When one wears out that fast, something was wrong from the start. Start talking about leaving - I'll bet the guys say ok.Maybe for the best, and next time don't ever go to bed with a guy who has to be talked into anything! Fair warning. There's plenty of us who would rather eat then get blown (although both are good!) Leave these jerks for Ms. Puritan, of whom there is an oversupply in the world. That you 3 found the original Mr Blahs says you weren't thinking. Try again. Warning: gays, who don't know they are gay, fade quickly. Sorry to be so honest, but you sound like great women who deserve better!

 

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Yeah as someone said you first then him - men can be like that - but you go first lol

 

THAT right there would be enough motivation for ANYBODY!!!...lol

No disrespect to your relationship, but you may have to put your foot down on this issue and tell him the best way you can that "What one HUSBAND wont do, there's a hundred FRIENDS who WILL!!"