Obsession with his weapons.

My guy has an obsession with his weapons. His guns, knives, etc. He calls them "His babies". It really scares me, because I have this wicked crazy fear of guns. He knows this, and he knows never to say anything to me about his guns or knives. I did not know of this obsession until recently, when on a forum we post on together, he started talking about them. I told him that, when I move in with him, he's going to have to keep all his weapons away in a locked case, I don't want to have to see or touch them, and I'm afraid that he's not going to like that. He says he's okay with it, but it really really scares me. As of right now, we're holding a long distance relationship, and it's really hard to keep it going, but we're managing. Soon, both of us will be in our own full time jobs, and such, and wont be able to talk as much as we do. I'm afraid things are going to fall apart. And, this recent gun thing has really given me some fear about being with him. He's the most wonderful person I have ever met, I don't want things to end, and I'm scared. What do I do!?

 

just wondering, how old is he?

you should have a serious disscussion with him about how uncomfortable this makes you feel

 

double post, sorry

 

He is 17. We've talked about it, but I don't know how to get it through to him that it scares me as much as it does. Not being able to sit down with him and talk to him makes it hard.

 

A few years ago, my best friend killed himself. Ever seen someone shoot themselves in the head? It isn't pretty.... I don't like being reminded of it.

 

Ah. Then you understand.

 

17 year old + obssessed with weapons = train wreck waiting to happen (in most cases)

 

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What do I do to stop this train wreck from happening? I don't know what I would do if I lost him.

 

you seem to be over-attached.

 

No, I'm in love. Before we met, I had nothing in my life. My family sucks, they're not very nice people. I have a shit job, and not a single friend. My school is a prison, (secondary education/rehab center) and I was on my way to killing myself. Everything changed when we met. EVERYTHING. Things were brighter, the sun shined, the birds chirped, and I was happy. It feels good, and I love him.

 

Where does he fire off his guns?

If it's miles from anywhere, then he's respecting his weapons.. Understanding the damage they do...

And has he ever fired a gun in front of you?

Scary questions, that might help you see how far down the track he is for when you pull the brakes on this obsession..

 

I don't know how he uses them. I don't ask questions.

 

How many guns have you heard of just getting up by theirselfs and shooting people up? Guns don't kill people, people kill people, and if you think he's going to kill you then why do want to live with him? Just because someone has guns doesn't mean they shoot at people.

 

The United States, well Britain too, should have a Law that allows people to easily find out who owns firearms.. Then at least the reason for people having them would mean something.. You wouldn't go pissing somebody off if you knew they had a gun now, would you?

Also, people like Pirate Sex would know what they were getting themselves into beforehand, and be able to decide how close they were going to get to somebody..

Ok.. This has some flaws, but it's about respecting the gun and it's owner, and also, a little fear never hurt anybody..

 

yeah, you are too attached

it could have been any guy, it was only him cause he was there, that's not love

 

No, it wasn't him because he was there. We met over the internet, and I talk to SO many other people. Internet is kinda my life. It's the only place I know people.

Damn, now I seem like a loser. =(

 

If he just owns a few guns and knives, and shoots in a safe enviornment, then I think everyone in this thread is overreacting.

Owning a few guns and talking about them on a forum isn't an obsession. Does he have a gun under his pillow? If not I'm not convinced it's a problem.

If he doesn't talk to you about them, he probably repsects how you feel, and he probably has a mature outlook of how to deal with weapons.

Does he have any violent impulses? collecting weapons isn't a violent impulse. Has he ever hit an animal or something?

 

I agree with Lodui.. Different ppl collect different things and it doesn't mean he has a problem.. Maybe his 'guns' is someone elses, I don't know, 'porn'?.. I wouldn't worry about it.. If he appears to be violent then that is a whole 'nother story but until then I would relax.. You may not always like what someone else does but if he enjoys it and isn't a nutcase then let him have his fun.. Besides, you've already stated that since meeting him the birds are chirping and you're happy..

 

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I mean, I have a shitload of knives too. No guns, but two swords, three daggers, one knife I usually carry with me, two sets of kitchen knives and a steak knife set. Do I seem like a crazy girl you would never want to date? er, wait, don't answer that. Would the point-shiny thing alone be cause not to date me? naw. There are plenty of other reasons to not... er....

 

you bring up a good point

to what extent is this 'obssession'?