i love hearing about romance and waht-not. tell me are u planning on doing something for your luv or wut has he//she done for you and what you you done for he/she!!! the love of my life is in chicago for 4 months right now and i'm going crazy without him!!! it would be nice to get my mind off of him!
hmmm well no'ones replying haha. well you know what..fuck that idea then let's just talk about anything.
OK ... well I clicked onto this thread with a different expectation ... still tis good to be surprised ... keeps the grey matter ticking over. What I thought you meant was that small gestures in a relationship count just as much (or even more) than big, flashy gifts or showy extravagance. I agree with this wholeheartedly. As for the topic which you actually posted, long distance love is extremely difficult to manage. You have to take a lot on trust and it really can do your head in wondering what the other person is up to, especially when they haven't called or emailed you in a few days. I've had several long distance relationships and found the experience to be very frustrating. Filling those empty moments isn't easy. The only thing I can suggest is that you try to phone and email as much as possible, also sending photos, CDs, snail mail letters, magazines, anything of interest to you both. It doesn't have to be expensive, just use your imagination. Play guessing games over the phone ... like "what am I wearing?" or "what am I holding in my hand?" It may sound stupid, but it helps to keep that connection alive betwixt the both of you, and in a long distance relationship, that is vitally important. Good luck from someone who's been there ...
I like the jewelry and presents, don't know what the hell your talkin about. He does the small things for me like love notes, text messages, buys me dinner and makes it for me- I like presents more!
it shouldnt be about the presents i hope you find more some day. thankyou THANKYOU xanxtuary, long distance is really hard, i just got back from visiting him in ontario and after i left he was put in the hospital, i only wished i stayed maybe a couple days later to help him
No one has ever given me material things, but that's okay -- I am pretty pitifully broke, so I can't give lots of things myself. I prefer little things like ... kept promises ... returned phone calls ... surprise kisses ... even unexpected pointless text messages. That being said, it is true that I dearly love to DO little sweet things for people. The latest gifts I gave were to my poet, who has been hitting rough times lately. One particularly bad night I walked across town with a box of cookies and a jar of hot cocoa mix, and held him on my lap like I would a child while he cried. (Then we ate cookies and drank cocoa.) And just a few days ago I *acquired (ahem) a pint of his favorite ice cream, left it on his front porch, hid behind a tree, and called his phone to make him come downstairs. Seeing the expression on his face when he saw the surprise was one of the best "gifts" I have ever received ... He tells me those experiences will be among those he remembers in the minute or so before he dies ... an odd but oddly flattering thing to hear.
Those are nice stories. One thing that really hurts me is that the last couple of girls I've been with, I've done some really creative things for them, things that I really thought would brighten their lives up and make them happy-they were either almost completely ignored or unappreciated. I still haven't really got over the hurt from it.
Yesterday, I found a piece of paper in my pocket. It was writen "I love you more than you can even imagine honey!!". It is from my bf. I love him becouse of this and many more other things that show me he cares and he loves me.
i love the little things too my boyfriend sometimes writes me little notes with song lyrics on them, or will surprise me with something he made himself, like flowers he grew in his yard or socks that he tie-dyed or something. we do the text messaging thing too....it's great to hear something from someone you love no matter what time of day it is (or night)
