Speechless

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by lazysunbird, May 20, 2006.

  1. lazysunbird

    lazysunbird Member

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    There is this guy that i really like but everytime i try talk to him my mind goes blank and i have no idea what to say. I'm scared he'll think i'm not interested. What, if anything can i do to try make conversation?
     
  2. Gypsy_girl

    Gypsy_girl Member

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    Have you actually spoken to this dude before? If not, why not go up and introduce yourself? and if you have and are now to shy to talk to him 'cause of these new feelings, then I'd try and break the ice, ask him how he's been, what he's been up to, etc...

    Hope that helps and good luck :)
     
  3. lazysunbird

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    I've spoken to him a fair bit but it's always him initiating conversation and asking me questions. I just get so nervous cause i really like him. This seems to happen all the time. I just wanna relax so i can be myself and have a conversation.
     
  4. Anastazija

    Anastazija Member

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    Try to think about some subjects that you think he is interested to, prepare something to say and next time - YOU start the conversation.
    :)
     
  5. Gypsy_girl

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    I agree with Anastazija. Ask him about something he's interested in, or you can talk about things you have in common if you go to the same school etc, if you are unsure of what his real passions / hobbies are.

    Good luck :)
     
  6. dietcoketree

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    what helps me get over anxiousness is just forget that you want a realationship. talk to him and hang out with him with the expectation that hes just a person your hangin with. just pretend hes a friend- and make yourself feel comfertable. if you have to push to hard to act 'normal', then thats a bad sign. you dont want someone that you cant be yourself with.

    just toss your hair back, take a deep breathe, and talk to him like you could care less about what he thinks about you. and he'll be ALL over you. :)
     
  7. moon_flower

    moon_flower Banned

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    Say:

    I may not be Fred Flintstone, but I can make your bed rock.
     
  8. spooner

    spooner is done.

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    beer seems to be the most obvious solution.
     
  9. Lady of the Freaks

    Lady of the Freaks Senior Member

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    awww...that's sweet. when you get tonguetied around him it might actually turn him on cuz he may realize it's cuz you like him. [​IMG]
     
  10. lazysunbird

    lazysunbird Member

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    Thanks everyone for posting, it's great advice and i'm sure it will work!
     
  11. brack1936

    brack1936 Member Lifetime Supporter

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    The best thing to do is to just tell him that you think he would feel right at home in your bed :) Once you've done the dirty, you'll hopefully have the emotional connection you're looking for. Please excuse my shallow suggestions :)
     
  12. rg paddler

    rg paddler Senior Member

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    good advice - don't forget to toss your hair back - nice.

    er...mm don't worry too much about it - i used to give new people a hundred questions straight away - where u from? where do/did you work? have you travelled much? what music u into? - if they don't respond much I just shut up and wait for them to ask something - else it might be I'm being really fkng irritating to them
     
  13. rg paddler

    rg paddler Senior Member

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    ...and if you don't - try his mate
     
  14. Suncatch22

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    Definitely DO say something! I lost my Ukrainian francophone (one of the most stellar boys I've ever had) because I stopped saying things ...

    I blame it partially on the sex, actually, so you may want to delay following the shallow suggestions until a wee bit later into your relationship. :)

    (But by all means ... DO follow them eventually! ;))
     
  15. Blighto

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    Thats the worst advice ive ever heard [​IMG]

    You need to stop thinking about how your acting, and relax and be yourself. Dont try to impress him, just talk to him and act perfectly normal like you would with friends, then he will see who you really are. If your not being yourself, it will show, and if he doesnt like the real you then it will never work.

    Where is it that you usually meet him? college? parties?
     
  16. cutelildeadbear

    cutelildeadbear Hip Forums Gym Rat

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    Not sure what to say or do because I'm exactly like you are. I had a crush back when I was 15-19 and I worked with this guy, and every day I saw him and never said more than "hi" for 4 f'n years. Wish I had said something. Then again, I suppose it was not meant to be. Now I can't shut up. LOL.
     
  17. brack1936

    brack1936 Member Lifetime Supporter

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    There's plenty more where that came from!
     

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