Hello, I am writing about a problem with penetration my guy is having... My guy is 46, 8 years odler than myself. He's a big guy at 6'2, broad shouldered and roughly 270 (I dont 'know he has a 44 waist so he could easily weigh more, which I suspect he does with a 44 waist). I am 5'7 with an average build. I don't know if his stature has anything to do with this or not but here it goes. When we would have sex, it would take him 4 times, sometimes more to penetrate. It's like his aim is off, but it shouldn't be. Not to sound vulgar but he has to line it up on top and let it slide down till it literally falls in. Again, sorry for sounding gross, but somethings not right and I dont' know what. We are pretty close, as close as you can get physically that is. It seems as though he is missing the mark. Sometimes he thinks he is in and starts to push pretty hard and I have to tell him "that's not it". He will then try a few more times before he gets inside. I have always found this odd and have wondered if it was something I was causing. He does tend to have a smaller penis 4-4.5 inches erect, but again, I don't know if that has anything to do with it all. He was married for 13 year and has been divorced for over 7 and has had other initmate relationships after his divorce and before me, so I don't think that it's inexperience. Can anyone help me to figure this out? Is this something I could be causing? I have never experinced this with anyone before.
I take it hes trying to put it in without looking? Maybe hes used to his previous partners grabbing it and guiding it in - maybe you should try that.
Maybe it's just me but if he can get it in and doesnt take forever or anything then whats the problem if he 'misses' once or twice before penetration?
its possibly he's not completely hard and that will make it harder for him to penetrate you. Also, maybe its just the way he likes to do it. My guy does it that way too sometimes - he uses his dick to stimulate my clit and then he penetrates. Its not something to be too worried about, I should think. Just make sure he's completely rock hard before trying to penetrate you. Also, help him out. Get on top, guide yourself down onto him. Or when he's on top, use one of your hands to guide him in, a bit of extra stimulation before penetration.
I agree with the guy who said 'what's the problem?'. Maybe the girl he was with before was thinner or something... I mean, not all women have the same body, and people don't always fit together the same way... I bet he's probably used to someone with a different body type. I honestly can't believe that this is an issue for you... But if it really bugs you, then I would suggest putting more effort into sex and not just laying there so he has to do all the work in the first place.
grab his dick, shove it in your vagina, and tell him to fuck the living shit out of you. problem solved. thanks.
