Yes, They Still Exist.

lmao... Feel better, Apples+Oranjes

 

Sorry, I was referring to have been through that situation as in on the other side, the nest is almost empty, having experienced it.

I am not putting you down because of your age. These posts make me recall when I was YOUNG, like you, and the statements I would make. Now, I'm 30+ years older then you. You know, it's a generational thing--once you live long enough you will be looking at the young kids and saying these same things. HONEST, you will.

 

I wish there was some way to commuicate a comical fist-shake online... "Kids these days" lol...
Actually, it makes me think of my parents. I've never known a happier or more loving couple than them. And the first time my Grandparents (her parents) met my dad, he literally chased their car out of the driveway, shaking his fist and saying "He's gonna ruin you life!" He thought my dad was a deadbeat because he hadn't "done anything" with his life yet. And now more than 35 years later, they are doing well, still happy, still in love, having raised 4 children and sending them ALL to college. I love my mommy and daddy!

Sorry, off topic, I felt the need to rant...

 

What set me off was an uderlying ? (attitude is the wrong word and can't think of the word) about the working not working thing. I never said you were parented bad or wrong. I said that if it wasn't the other way for you how can it be compared to the other way. Like comparing single parenthood to married couple with child. Neither one knows what the other is like, nothing different to compare it to. I have had work outside the home for $$, I have stayed at home and worked for free, my kids have had me 24/7 and they have had daycare/babysitters.

The biggest problem with posting is that we miss the body language, tone, etc. of the poster.

Sorry if I pissed you off.

Truce?

 

I'm sure... I mean, I'm not trying to sound as if I know *exactly* where I'm going to end up and what not...

I'm simply saying, this is the way I see things right now... and some of the things I see now, I don't think will change, or that I will want to change [opinions, I mean] but there are other things that I don't doubt may change or modify a bit.

The point of me getting active in conversations like these, is so that I CAN explore, and test the waters with different ideas and perspectives.... and see which one fits me best.

There were things said in this thread that I defintely understand, and would consider re-thinking, etc... But then there were also things that even AT 19, I know I will remain solid about, because of the way I tend to think in general.

I don't know, it's a weird thing to explain, but maybe you can remember feeling this way... I know a good portion of who I am and what I believe and what I want, and what I'm going to work for, and there are also parts of me, I haven't yet pieced together, or developed a stable opinion on... that sort of thing.

But before I get to rambling about that...
Because I do ramble a lot.
Especially this time of month.

 

Of course, truce.

 

Hey again ...

"It drives me nuts, not solely because of tradition, but because of the shallowness that usually seems to accompany it. If a woman wants to take on a traditional role, and be a stay at home mom/housewife...that's cool with me; but when women start expecting gifts and nice houses and clothes and what not... it just disgusts me. To me, that's not what a marriage or committment should be about, it should be about love."

Thanks, Apples. You are pretty cool -- be my friend.

FYI: My other objection with this conservative girl was that -- I never try to push MY lifestyle on HER, or imply that SHE is a loser because I do things differently. However, she did that to me, and I was not happy about it.

I did, however, see her point. I just don't want to follow it. I think, if I don't wanna get married until I am in my thirties, forties, even my fifties or later, or if I NEVER want to get married, that should be okay. I am fine with the fact that she wants to get hitched before she's 25 -- she should just refrain from telling me that I need to do that too, lest I become some worthless old maid or something.

And, disclaimer: I NEVER want to marry my poet. He's a good guy, not the kind of fellow who lies around all day -- he's currently working a couple of jobs, just like me, and trying to get by ... but if we were married ... ugh. The situation would go downhill FAST.

But right now, I am more than happy to just spend a little time ... some people might say WASTE a little time, but to me, no time is a waste unless nothing is accomplished. And in my opinion, having any kind of close friendship (even if it "goes nowhere" in the marriage/commitment sense) is never ever a waste. If it were, then a vast number of friendships would be a waste ... and we all know that is not true.

 

Honestly, it's amazing what a bowl of soy ice cream does for my mood...

Now I feel like hugging people.

This is making my head hurt, the confusion of the mood swings, yeppp.

*giggles*

 

gracias

....pretty sure if I went back and read every post I did between yesterday and today, I probably sound like I'm 10 different people.

It's sad how sometimes, when the mood switches, in a positive manner, how I can actually entertain myself off thoughts of how ridiculous I am and sound when I'm in bitch-alert mode... I feel like, when I'm drunk...and say things out of line, and later I either laugh about it, or feel terrible about it lmao

Ok, I'm going to go hop around now, and thank you all for being understanding, and for the good conversation regardless of any fiesty attitudes exchanged :-D

 

Apples+oranjes went bananas.
Yea I hope you felt better preying on the unsuspecting internet folk, just come back here on Aug 19th after my MCAT, I will get my own ranting revenge by starting another money/love thread .

 

Ohhh sorry August 19 is my birthday, so I'm pretty sure I won't be hanging out on here that day haha

lol

Good luck on the mcat though

 

I've got a good one here: Ritz is fo' da shits.