hey, me an my gf have been goin out over a year and have had our share of bad patches. were goin thru one again. and it aint good. basically most of em are coz i jus say sumfin stupid or do sumfin stupid and then its like a big fuckin row. i dnt c wat ive dun is wrong, tho i DO try my best to empathise with her, and atm it seems everything i do is wrong. she says shes gotten to the point where she doesnt care anymore and is fed up with sorting it out. what can we do!!!??? im sorta trapped into a corner coz a lot of the stuff she says she does have a point and i cant exactly come back with nethin coz its tru, ie i dnt compliment her as much ne more jus say shes got big boobs. now its all god knowing that NOW and i wnt do it again, but wat can i say? dat is all i have complimented her on 4 the last week lol and shes the kinda girl hu likes the old 'your hair looks nice' or 'your dress looks nice' not 'i love your big tits' lol! and also that all i think about is sex and she feels like a fuck buddy. obviously i can cool down from now on and not b so 'come on lets do it' but wat can i say 2 make up 4 the last few days wen i hav been like that?? im rite in a corner and find dat most of r arguements r wiv her slating me and me not havin much 2 say coz, well, its tru. now shes gon off 2 work pissed off, im stuck at home revisin 4 an exam 2moro and everythin aint cool. really appreciate any help, wat can we do to fix this? wat can i say to her? im rlly stuck an worried its all gona end! thanks!!
Tell her exactly what you told us... I mean, communication is key and you should tell her how horrible you feel about making her feel the way she does and that you don't mean to say certain things... Sit down and talk with her...you guys can figure something out, I'm sure.
funny how you offer suggestions in this thread, yet attacked another poster in a past thread for her very similar spelling errors, DA Anyways, DA is right, you need to tell her what you feel. Apologize if you feel it's necessary, but open and warm communication is what's going to help fix you two.
when its over, its over. im not saying your relationship is, because i really have no idea what the circumstances are. BUT dragging on a relationship that should have ended a while ago will only make things bitter and sour and spoil all the good memories you two had before. maybe you guess need to just have a stress free talk, or maybe you guys should spend some time apart, as it sounds as if you both are stressed. whatever happens, good luck. if you LOVE her and she loves you, then it will work. dont let go to something like love that is so rare and beautiful, but at the same time, dont hold on to something that you know deep down is just not going to work. best wishes!
Dude, I suggest talking to her, just telling her how you feel and appologise for saying what you said, and try and reach some resolusion. If things continue like this after you've resolved them, well, then I'd move on, you do'nt need all the drama.
Not everyone is perfect. We all have our bad days. I'll be the first to admit. Sometimes I find it annoying, other times I don't. Don't hold grudges
well thats all sorted now. and onto the next. i thought everything was goin fine over the weekend, we went out bowling with some of our friends, went out for a drink the next night and watched a movie round one of her friends the next. all good yeah nothin to worry about. but no. apparently our relationship is boring and dull and we aren't very 'lovey' any more. i spent a good hour talking to her last night about this and cant understand what has happened! atm im revising for some big exams (like the last month and for the next 3 weeks) so maybe ive been a lil stressed and a bit distracted from her, and she told me that. she said that she feels like shes been pushed aside and its all about me me me but ffs ive got some big exams of course its all about me me me if i wana do well i gota revise. and the whole 'theres no spark anymore' what do i do about that? and 'we never do anything' line. jesus we only just went out at the weekend every day its ridiculous. the annoying thing is i do really love her so i dnt jus wana end it like most ppl suggest it really aint that easy coz she's my first real love. weve decided to go on a break for the next week (well i did and she agreed with me) which is basically where we dont see each other but can talk on the phone once a day to talk about what weve done in the day, just so we dont get pushed apart because theres no contact at all. is this a good idea? is having a little break going to make her realise what she's got? because im worried she might enjoy the time apart and realise what she could have if we split up! and what do i do about the 'sparks' and the 'boredom'? i just cant understand what it is she wants from me. she says she wants to feel like when we were first going out, and she did admit that its impossible to feel exactly the same but she doesnt feel any love any more and we never do anything but watch tv. its tearin me up being with her like this but i cant imagin bein without her either.
Pardon, I didn't read the first post since you mentioned it was resolved. Regarding this issue about things not being the same as when you first started, it may be a bit of both of you who need to go over a few things. 1) While you've settled down into the comfort zone of the relationship where you fart/burp/shower together, she still wants to be made to feel special. I'll let you in on a little something. MOST women want this. What (some) men don't understand is that it doesn't have to be extravagant. It doesn't have to be a diamond necklace, a bouquet of flowers, or a trip to Paris. But something - little things, that still let her know you care, let her know that she still turns you on, that she's beautiful, wonderful etc. It can even be in words. The way you say her name, or touch her, or making breakfast for her. You don't have to spend eons like you were courting her, but relationships shouldn't have to feel like all manner of courtship is over. At least that's how I see it. When was the last time you surprised her with something wonderful, or that she loved? 2) SHE needs to realize that the relationship CANNOT continue completely in La-La Land. You both have lives, are tired, and sometimes watching tv or relaxing together can be great. Sit down and have a talk with her. Undoubtedly your exams come first, but can you not spare a couple of hours to go over this? (If you're worried about it seeping into your study time, make it before an appointment - that way you absolutely have to go. Hair appointment, doctor's appointment, plumber appointment. Whatever.) Lastly, do not be afraid to let go. Every love at some point is beautiful (even the ones who are lying bastards or plain idiots in the end) but be prepared to break away to move on to healthier pastures rather than stay in a potentially unhealthy situation.
