my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me saturday and never gave me a reason. I know 7 months isnt long but the relationship was intense. I dont know what to do...
Breakups are always hard. No matter which side you are on in it. It seems unfair that he didn't even talk to you about it. Could it be that he isn't brave enough to deal with the confrontation of it? I'm not saying that you are going to or in any way have to have an argument if he ever does decide to talk with you but there is inherent conflict to a breakup. If I had a real piece of advice I wold say to love yourself & realize that you are a good person & will find someone else if you want to.
I also think it's unfair he didn't talk to you about it and give you a chance to try and resolve things, but I really thingk your best bet here is to move on, as hard as that is. If he contacts you, ask him why he broke up with you, but if he doesn't, I think you have the right to find out why, but on the other hand, contacting could only cause unecessary drama and heart ache for you, so really, the choice is yours. I'm sorry I didn't really give you any straight-forward advice. Good luck.
7 months is still a long term relationship and yes, its very unfair that he broke up with you without giving you a reason! As hard as it sounds, id say its time to move on, get over him, and then find someone better. Try not to jump straight into another relationship while your still confused and upset about the last one. Breaking up from any long term relationship is hard, but i cant imagine what it would be like without knowing why. I feel for you.
leave it alone if he was enough of an asshole as to not give you a reason for breaking up, he's sooo not worth your time
If he just dumped you out of the blue with no explanation....he's a creep and you shouldn't waste your time on him. But, if it would make you feel better....go to his house and ask for an explanation. But prepare yourself for the chance that he may be an asshole to you....so don't let him see you hurt.
my boyfriend just dumped me last night. i feel for you, i really do. he wouldn't give a straight-forward explaination either. what's up with these guys these days? i just don't get it. if showing up at his house is what you need for closure, then i say go for it. if it causes drama, so what? drama already existed there, apparently. go for it, get it done. take some time, and then move on. it's the only way.
He obviously doesnt want to see/hear from you. Dont go round his house. Worst case scenario he could have a new girlfriend there with him. I know you desperately want to see him and talk.... but just dont, youll be better off. If he wants to contact you he will.
From personal experience, I'd say as bad as it hurts and as much as you wanna resolve things and patch things back up, just leave it alone. Maybe he's going through a bad time right now and needs to figure things out, maybe he's just a dick. My ex broke up with me suddenly, giving me no chance to talk to him or anything, and was a complete ass to me for a couple of weeks afterwards...I decided to stop trying and just live with life without him and one day was talking to someone and he came into subject and I found out he had told them that he just wasn't ready for a serious relationship. So, I e-mailed him, apologized for wigging out on him, and found out he still wanted to give it another shot eventually. I took that into mind...but I moved on anyway. The trust was broken and I wasn't going to wait around for someone who couldn't even handle sticking with me in the first place. Basically, the best thing in your case would probably be to just leave it alone. As bad as it hurts, it could end up hurting much more. But don't let everything just be okay if he does decide to talk to you again, you have every right to know why he broke up with you before you even consider any sort of further contact with him.
Yesterday I was at work and I happened to look out the window and there was a downpour. I saw a car that looked like his next to mine so I used the excuse that I needed to roll the windows up to my car and went outside. Sure enough it was him, I pretended not to see him and get something out of my car. I went back to the window 20-30 minutes later to see if he was still there and he was just leaving. What could that be all about?
I had another talk with my ex last night. And I'm glad I did. I'm actually wanting to eat now, as opposed to not wanting to. And I do feel better about myself, even though it's still gonna be hard to go through the days without him. But he did say that we will get back together soon. But he also said that he only asked me out because that's the only way he thought that I'd talk to him. And he only said that he loved me because he thought that would make me happy. Of all the things that we went through, I thought that our love was at least gonna hold us together. But it's all based upon a lie. However, when we do get back together, maybe then we will be able to start fresh. People keep telling me to move on, get over it. But I can't after only 2 days! Take as long as you need to get over him, even if he is over you. It's the only way you can live, and move on. Do what you need to make you sane and happy.
Belladonna, your first relationship was based on a lie...give it thought before you decide if you want to give him another chance. Could he just end up basing this entirely on a lie? How can you ever believe anything he says now? I could never give any of the guys who broke my heart a second chance because they broke their trust with me. Lakeoffire, sounds kinda creepy to me, but maybe it was just a coincidence? Anyway, glad to see that you're giving him a taste of his own medicine. Hopefully he'll get the balls to call you up sometime so you can have a rational discussion of why your relationship ended.
Sorry to hear this. As much as anyone can say otherwise, I think you'll eventually do what's best for you to finally put your mind at ease. I don't think it's right to expect him to call after giving him a taste of his own medicine - whatever that is. An ex also did the same with no word whatsoever, just walked away. He came back three weeks later to speak to me and I asked all the questions I had. (Then, desperately wanting to believe we could still give it a chance.) Well, I think even then he not only lied to himself, he lied to me, about it being possible. The fact was, it just wasn't. He disappeared again. About four months passed and I already was dating someone else, at least casually dating. It just felt right then to destroy everything. All the gifts, all the cards, and writings, and sever all connections and contacts. I also wrote a scathing note. And while others may think it better to be above all that rigmarole, for ME, it finally put the last nail in the coffin. I can honestly say whatever wound was gaping open for months, has finally started to grow some decent scar tissue. So do what you feel you need to do.
Hi there. I can relate a bit to your situation right now. I was seeing this guy for about a month and i thought things were going well, we got on like a house on fire and it felt alright....then he sends me an email saying we have to stop seeing each other cos he's not happy about his life and needs to step back from things and so...yeah broke up with me. Today I got the cds he borrowed from me through the post...and it made me upset, because it was like 'there you go, you meant nothing to me, fuck off' I am not sad about not being with him anymore, i feel sad because he wasn't brave enough to tell me to my face whatever it was that he felt at the time, just be honest about things, you know? Though we didnt date for long, i reckon i still deserve a little respect from his part at least. some people are just too self absorbed to realise that others have feelings too. Don't worry babe, you are better off without that bastard.
the thing is, i still love him. and he just needs to get over his ex first, then we can be together, finally. i mean, it's not like he has no feelings for me at all! he does. we made each other happy, and we both want that again. but he needed space to get over what that bitch did to him. and i understand that. may not like it, but i get it. and i have to accept that, if i want him back. sure he lied to me, but i believe in giving only one more chance to people. one more. and if he lies to me again, does something like that again, then we're through for good.
I know what you're saying, but I have been in that exact same situation and it's not fair for him to expect you to just wait around for him. That just shows he can treat you however he pleases and you'll just come crawling back. With the guy I mentioned in my first reply on here, he wanted to get back together, but he needed time to get over his ex-fiancee, and blah blah blah. So, I waited for a little while, but when someone else came along, I stopped waiting. Basically my point is, don't wait forever for him, if someone else you find intriguing comes along, give them a chance. I ended up falling in love with one of his best friends in the end, and I can't believe now I was ever even willing to wait for him. But if things go smoothly the second go-round, then great. Nothing feels better than finding out someone who you still care about still cares about you.
