My boyfriend has issues...with me?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month this Sunday. In the beginning, I had an issue dealing with an ex, which I already posted about. Well, I definately got over that. And I began falling hard for Buffalo (that's his nickname). Well, since we're always with our best friends, who are also dating, last night I said to him that it would be great if we can have just one night alone, and he agreed. We said our "I love you's" as he went into the house. Everything seemed fine. As I was falling asleep, my best friend came into my room with the phone, saying that Buffalo was on, wanting to speak with me. He told me that he thinks we shouldn't see each other for a couple of days, he's not mad at me or anything like that; he said that he had some issues to work out. But he wouldn't tell me what was wrong. Said that he didn't want to explain. My friend got on the phone with her boyfriend, Buffalo's best friend; and he said that yeah, he knows, but won't say anything, it's for Buffalo and me to deal with. But how am I supposed to deal with it, if I don't know what's going on? She said that maybe it has something to do with his ex, a girl named Becky. I cried myself to sleep, worring about him leaving me. I love this man to death, I would do anything for him. He's treated me right, always said what's on his mind, and made me feel safe and wanted. I just don't know what to do. I mean, I'll respect what he said, but it's soooo damn difficult to do!

 

well i'm a guy and it's not always girls we have trouble with school, family, and other stuff. who knows maybe he just needs some alone time, i know my best friend just wanted to hang with his buds for a while. my point it stop crying and try to cheer up, i doubt it's with his ex that is his issues. and if it is she's just bothering him not the other way around.


peace,
Chronic

 

Well wait for a couple days. And see what happens. As ledzeppelinlover said maybe hes just wants to hang with his buddies or some alone time. Or having family/school related troubles. He said that he wasn't mad at you, hes just got some issuse to work out. Give him time and maybe he'll come around.
Hope things shape up for you Belladonna 2086!!!!!

Peace
Shannon

 

life's too short. find a new dick.

 

thanks guys. but i talked to him on the phone, and then in person today. we worked it all out. it really was nothing, and it had nothing to do with the ex!

 

good to hear. i'm glad it worked out fine.

 

Awesome Im glad you guys are okay peace! Shannon

 

turns out, we're not. he broke up with me last night. said that he felt like he was using me to make himself happy because it was too soon after his former girlfriend, who treated him like shit. he told me that that night when he called and said that he couldn't see me for a couple of days wasn't about being with his family or cleaning up the basement, it was about thinking about her and us. he let us be together all this time, let me fall more and more in love with him, knowing how much i cared for him, and then he dumped me. he said that we can still talk and be friends, but...i don't know if i'm ready for that. now, my best friend, whom i'm living with, is gonna have her boyfriend come over for the weekend, and usually my boyfriend, aka her boyfriend's best friend, comes along too. my former actually had the balls to ask if he can still come over for the weekend! my best friend said that it's up to me.... i want her to have time with her man, and i want him to also have time with his best friend, so i think i'll tell him to come over. it's gonna be a long 3-day weekend...

 

Life rule number one: if a new relationship becomes too complicated to bear (cried myself to sleep after only a month, A Month?) it is time to move on. Life looks long at early ages, but the cause for crying is hurt - and gets more unbearable as age takes us on its journey. There are so many alternatives to a careless suitor, why put ourselves through misery? A day or so of disappointment is worth it to avoid a lifetime - or a couple of months - of daily torment. Something about banging the head against a wall, and the feeling when we stop.

 

I had another talk with my ex last night. And I'm glad I did. I'm actually wanting to eat now, as opposed to not wanting to. And I do feel better about myself, even though it's still gonna be hard to go through the days without him. But he did say that we will get back together soon. But he also said that he only asked me out because that's the only way he thought that I'd talk to him. And he only said that he loved me because he thought that would make me happy. Of all the things that we went through, I thought that our love was at least gonna hold us together. But it's all based upon a lie.

However, when we do get back together, maybe then we will be able to start fresh. People keep telling me to move on, get over it. But I can't after only 2 days!

 

i decided to accept what he has done. i told him that. told him that i'll always put him first, even before me. told him that i'd do whatever he needed done. and that i'll always care for him. and that i'll wait for him for as long as he needs. and some may say that's stupid, but he's had it rough. his former girlfriend, the one that he's getting over right now, has put him through HELL. she cheated on him, used him, and did all sort of psychological mind crap to him. she screwed him up really bad, you know. so, i'll support him, and wait for him, and continue loving him.

also, i'm drunk right now! *laughs* hanging with my best friend and her boyfriend's mom... getting drunk!! lol. it's great... and i feel (and someone said i even look) better for letting that go, for accepting what he has to do. all i want now is for him to be happy and healthy, mentally and emotionally. i told him that as long as he has a smile on his face, i'm happy. and i meant every word of it!

 

Oh, but it is with the ex he is having problems with. I mean, he is still hung up over her. She's already moved on with another boyfriend, but he... I dunno. He knows that I love him. He knows that I would do anything for him! And he still wants time to be single. YET - he can't keep himself away from me, whether it be for comfort, sex, or anything inbetween. We talk well (We stayed up literally ALL night just talking, and then we had sex... and everytime we do that, it's always the best that we have...) and we never argue. Maybe disagree on some things, but never fight. We fit so perfectly, and he knows that. He's just still hung up on the ex, who may have treated him well, but she tore him up at the end. And I don't know what to do to help him; all I can do is just be there for him.

 

Oh, but it is with the ex he is having problems with. I mean, he is still hung up over her. She's already moved on with another boyfriend, but he... I dunno. He knows that I love him. He knows that I would do anything for him! And he still wants time to be single. YET - he can't keep himself away from me, whether it be for comfort, sex, or anything inbetween. We talk well (We stayed up literally ALL night just talking, and then we had sex... and everytime we do that, it's always the best that we have...) and we never argue. Maybe disagree on some things, but never fight. We fit so perfectly, and he knows that. He's just still hung up on the ex, who may have treated him well, but she tore him up at the end. And I don't know what to do to help him; all I can do is just be there for him.

 

Oh, but it is with the ex he is having problems with. I mean, he is still hung up over her. She's already moved on with another boyfriend, but he... I dunno. He knows that I love him. He knows that I would do anything for him! And he still wants time to be single. YET - he can't keep himself away from me, whether it be for comfort, sex, or anything inbetween. We talk well (We stayed up literally ALL night just talking, and then we had sex... and everytime we do that, it's always the best that we have...) and we never argue. Maybe disagree on some things, but never fight. We fit so perfectly, and he knows that. He's just still hung up on the ex, who may have treated him well, but she tore him up at the end. And I don't know what to do to help him; all I can do is just be there for him.

 

Listen kid, never fall that deep in love period. From the hell I've been through with three mariages and countless girlfriends, I tel ya, it's not worth it. Just go on and live you life -- without another man. The single way is the best way.