Cyber Sex: Is It Cheating?

i voted other. it totally depends on the situation and the couple in question. It can be lots of fun for a couple to go online and one or both of them chat in one of those cyber sex websites, while the other watches. There's nothing wrong with harmless fantasy, it can really spice up a relationship that has become a bit boring or routine, it can give you some interesting new ideas to try. But it would be terribly wrong if someone does it knowing their partner would be upset to find out about it, and keeps it a secret.

 

I kind of agree with you and CallingHome. If it's just "getting off", then it can't be all that bad, unless of course, your partner doesn't like it, and asks you to stop (if they find out, that is). THEN it becomes a problem.

 

I agree. In my case though, it would be cheating cause my husb would freak.... I think it's also about the emotional aspect of it. If it's like masturbating then fine, or is this going to become a "relationship" thing.

 

HELL NO!

If my cock isn't feeling groovy inside a pussy-- I AIN'T GONNA CATCH SHIT FOR FUCKING COMPUTER "CYBER" SEX... bullshit.

You may as well just go ahead and fucking do the real deal, if you're gonna catch the same shit for it.

That's like saying fantasizing about someone is cheating. If there ain't sweatin' bodies locked in heat, it's not "cheating".

 

It's cheating. If one partner is seeking sexual gratification from someone other than the person with whom they are in a committed relationship, it's cheating, pure and simple. How would the partner feel about it?

On the other hand, me being single and divorced and alone, I can cyber all I want. I just don't really want to. Anyone up for a pity fuck?

 

No, it's NOT.
Pure and simple.

What kind of fucking prudes post on here? GAddamn...

 

I'm no prude by any means, but if my girl is using her goods whether physically or mentally to get other men off, than I'm not going to be very happy about it. Flirting and shit I'll deal with. Talking dirty to some guy thats jerking it is where I draw the line.

 

How do you know he's jerking? And what irreparable harm has it done to you? Injured your pride?

 

Treat others the way you want to be treated..Pretty easy stuff. I do believe it's different for every couple.

 

To be honest, that's all cheating ever injures..

So it's about a person's ability to handle thier partners activities?

Leave two partners to explore the whole aspect of sex, and they'll be open enough to admit, deal with, and to enjoy giving others a little gratification... No damage done...

 

No, but it's not a good sign of things to come in my opinion. It shows dissatisfaction with the current sexual set up, and a lack of communication about that dissatisfaction in my opinion. If my partner has to look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction, then who's to say she will stop at cyber sex?

I don't have anything against couples that are ok with this arrangement at all. That's their business, and I don't judge them for it. However I would not find it acceptable in my relationships.

 

I have no problem with it myself.

I think that my partner and I have evolved sexually to the point that pride and ego are non-existant. Some of our fantasies would make a sailor blush with shame, but we are completely open and honest about things. Most relationships nowadays are based on rigid rules of tradition because the exploration of sexuality makes people uncomfortable and jealous.

No offense to them, but I think those people have yet to reach a level of security in and of themselves. I have no problem with my partner cybersexxing or even fantasizing (god knows I do), but at the end of day, we both smile and go back to REALITY.

 

So how many times do we cyber and not know what the other person even looks like?

That's fantasising with purely your imagination...

The ideal man/woman in your head.. Which most of us have anyway.

The sex has to be kinda compatible.. I've been put off my a simple phrase that didn't fit my own fantasy (I prefer cyber so slow, it takes almost two hours, from my cell phone ).. But even when you find somebody that you "click" with, all you're doing is tapping into each other's fantasies.

 

In my opinion it goes beyond fantasizing when another person is actually involved. Whether the physical touch is there or not, the other persons words are there to substitute for the lack of feeling. Fantasizing about somebody is pure imagination and involves on your lover and their mind. Cybering takes it to a level comparable with something else. You are correct that many relationships nowadays are b ased on rigid rules but if both parties don't agree upon those rules than they should not be together.

Hence if I do not believe that cybersex is appropriate in the relationship and my lover does, it says to me that we are not compatible in our thoughts and beliefs. My ideal partner will have the same belief structure and values that I have, or atleast similar enough that we will come to some sort of compromise that leaves us both satisfied with the situation.

 

why not

 

It is if the other person thinks it is.. if he's o.k with it then it's not. .easy as that.

 

OF COURSE IT'S BLOODY CHEATING!!!

If you make someone laugh over the Internet, do they really laugh?
If you hurt someone's feelings over the Internet, are they really hurt?
If you make someone cum over the Internet, do they really cum?

Just because something is done remotely, doesn't mean it isn't real!

If you're in a relationship where you'd consider sleeping with another person to be cheating, then cyber sex is also cheating. Cheating is betrayal of trust in a relationship; this is not a physical thing, it's a mental thing.

Obviously, there are different degrees of cheating, and different kinds of relationships. There are very casual, transitory relationships where two people may not be fully committed to each other. In these kinds of relationships it is probably acceptable for people to fantasise about other people.

But when it comes to committed, long-term relationships, you can't be doing this kind of thing. It shows a real lack of loyalty to your partner.

And then of course if you're a Christian like me, you need to be faithful in every thought when you're married. So the only person you should ever think about in a sexual way is your spouse.

 

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It's not cheating. There, I have made the final decision.

So, any further discussion of the matter is insubordination punishable by getting cyber fucked in the cyber ass.

 

Perfect answer.