Grrrrrrrrrrrr

Jester ... ouch. I dunno, I sort of feel like all the mean (if relatively true) things you say about women, do not necessarily apply to ALL women. They certainly don't all apply to me -- I mean, yeah I ask for advice a lot, and yeah I am currently dating someone who can do exceptionally stupid things, but when I ask people who REALLY know me I am told that I for one am not a whiner. Nor am I attracted to people who abuse me.

So ... I dunno, I would like to see what would happen if you ever met a girl who could match you. And before you quote me with "SHE DOESN'T EXIST!!" in big caps beneath it, I firmly believe she DOES exist.

 

I wish I could be there to see it...Jester, sitting there dumbfounded with a chick being a bigger asshole than him...Classic.

 

I see these two getting married, jester and annie.

 

Fat chance. I don't get broken hearted anymore. I'm one of those feminist chicks...I don't need a man...I move on quickly.

And I'd kick you in the balls before you'd ever have me cock-whipped, fyi. You'd be buying me tampons before the day was out.

 

Yup, InsaneJester, she likes you.........!! :X

 

Ok, keep telling yourself that...

Keep acting that way the rest of your life, and see if you ever end up in a truely fufilling relationship...

I find it funny how so many people on these forums want to talk about their sexual life experiences, and yet they are so young as not to have experienced five years of worth...

Incase this post was not obvious enough... Jester this post is for you... :X

 

I'm not sure if Butters is still following this post, but, my advice is:

Be a nice guy...WITH BALLS.

Women aren't attracted to assholes. Women are generally attracted to self-assured, masculine, confident and assertive men. They're attracted to someone who makes them feel womanly, beautiful, sexy, and desireable. Generally, having a man pursue them, and seeing that he enjoys pursuing them, makes a woman feel that way.

Assholes just happen to be self-assured, masculine, confident, and assertive. Unfortunately, they're also pricks and they have shitty relationships, even if it's easy for them to attract women. It's easy enough to act nice when you're trying to win someone over, but it when it comes down to the daily grind of trying to keep a relationship in working order you can be sure that someone who is an asshole at heart is going show his true colors then: when he's already "won" you and doesn't have to put on a show anymore.

Fortunately, you can be confident and assertive without being an asshole. And if you're also emotionally secure, mature, sensitive, caring, honest, respectful and you've got your own shit together you can actually have a fulfilling relationship.

And don't forget, girls who are really interested in a serious relationship, AND are mature enough to know what that really consists of, will usually be looking for all of the above qualities.

Lady types, if I'm going far astray here please correct me, will ya?

Now, if only I could find a girl that I find interesting, AND is available. Blah, I'm keeping my eyes peeled...

 

^ that's pretty right on

 

Capn Danger...you are right on

 

Don't be afraid to be a wild, eccentric person with crazy ideas. Girls love when you are different from every other guy in the world. Make sure you are being natural too. Girls can sniff a fraud from miles away. They also hate nervousness. don't force anything. if things are not working, it wasn't supposed to happen so move on and see it as a blessing that something went wrong.

Be nice...BUT make them earn it. Make them earn your respect too.

In this day and age, you do need to look out for yourself, sadly. Kindness can't be handed out anymore.

girls love off the wall humor, whether it is witty, weird...whatever

last tip, just occupy yourself with other things: work friends, art work, reading...just keep busy and the girls will notice. If you live your life and appear naturally apathetic, you give off that independent vibe.

but remember, you don't need to be an asshole. bust a girls balls and smile with them, but no asshole.

 

First off, I think Captain Danger had a lot of good ideas, the other thing I find is that when i keep looking for and meeting the wrong women, I take time to just be myself, have fun, travel hang with my kid etc. and then the right women are attracted to me. Hope that helps.

 

that's it. exactly!

 

Hmmmmm.

 

Ahhh, if only. Problem is, the world is not like that, my friend. Nor are women.

Let me see if I could maybe throw an ace down on the table here, something that would shoot you down in flames (before some chick does!)....I got it:
RetroGroove Girl

That priceless woman and her posts have possibly saved many a nice guy from getting burned!!!

 

That's another good point, and it applies to making friends and making sweet sweet looooove .

If you're having fun, being happy, and enjoying life by yourself it's pretty easy to invite people to join you in having good times. When you stop needing people to be happy or to have a great life is when people start wanting to be around you. In general, anyways.

And Salamander, maybe your experience differs from but I've seen that hold generally true. Maybe you just attract the wrong kind of girl? :H

 

Yep, I'm still here Haha. I guess I was just getting sick of the bickering with Jester.....

But yea, that sounds like a pretty good response to me. With me...I am confident, to a point. I've just been rejected quite a few times, and my previous breakup was VERY rough, and my ex basically destroyed every bit of confidence I had left in me, so I'm trying to get it all back. But because of what happened, I'm just still too nervous now to try and talk to women and ask anyone out, because I keep telling myself "oh, she wouldn't want me anyways" Of course I have no idea what would happen, but I just automatically assume that the girl would hate me. Thats my main problem it seems.

 

Hes not happy unless he is bickering with someone, I found tha out on my 3rd day in these forums man... :H

Some people have to think they are right 99.99998999899% of the time...
that would be Jester...

Sometimes he seems well spoken and other times he simply seems... oh whats the word.......?

Ahh Yes.... Moronic...

Be self-confident, dont talk about things you dont feel comfortable talking to wmen about, be yourself (whatever that might be) and COMMUNICATE all of your feelings, hopes and dreams... IF you feel that it might head that direction that is...

Good luck man...

 

I have a friend like you. I think it's because he's too nice, and you seem that way too. Don't let women walk all over you. Be assertive and confident. Confidence really shows and I know my friend doesn't have that; that's probably a big hit.