I've been dating this girl for 6 months. Everything has been going great. Our chemistry is WOW. The sex is terrific. We're having a good time. She needed me to get some info for her from her email. She gave me the password, I got her the info. I also checked thru her other emails. What I found caught me off gaurd. She was overseas doing it up. Most of the email's had to do with sex. She was telling her friends that there is hot dick all over the place. It's so easy to get this hot dick. She's fucking so much now she is French. She came to New York, and before I met her she was out here for 3 months. In that three months span she had 3 partners. One of them got her pregnant. She had an abortion and met me like 2-3 weeks later. She fucked my right away. In a year's time she had at least 10 partners including me. Before she went overseas, she was in a long relatonship. She says that it was like being in prison. After that ended she was free and enjoying life. I was extremly comfortable with this girl before I found all this out. Right now i'm extremly uncomfortable. I can't relax. I don't know why, it is in the past. I do like her, but I've never been able to kick it with a female that is easy and gives herself to so many men. Let me get some feedback. What would you do if this was your girlfriend??
Maybe next time you'll think twice before snooping through her other emails.. At the same time sometimes if you don't snoop you'd be played a fool, and that's not good either.. If it were me I would have a long talk with her and figure out what to do next.. If you really like her and she's worth it then sit down and have a talk.
As long as she isn't cheating on you she hasn't done anything wrong. You should be happy you were the guy she settled for. That's what you should try to find out.
I disagree with the person who asked why he was going through the emails. The woman was silly enough to give her password and account to him - why should he not cross check or browse a little? I'm sorry to say this, buddy, but she doesn't sound serious about you. All you had to say was the "sex was terrific". What else do you know about who she is despite her sex life? I think people in this thread are mixing the post up with monogamous relationship material. It's a nearly only a sexual relationship for six months. Are you just worried about the STDs? If you don't like that, find another person who's a good fuck. All the best. If this was my boyfriend, I wouldn't be fucking oblivious for six months. Literally.
How is it that sexual promiscuity with women labels them as a whore and with men a stud. Get over it. I've always liked women who like sex.
As long as she's not doing those things WHEN she's with you then so what. And shame on you for reading her personal stuff.
Simple, because society labels them so... and not all men feel this way, so dont dump "US" who DONT feel that way in that folder ok? Thanks.. now back to reality...
If you want privacy, then you dont give someone the password to your damn email account... If you were dating a guy, and he gave you the key to his house, are you NOT going to look through his drawers? Its curiosity.. everyone has it, even if you believe in personal space and privacy, I know because I have done it... I told her about it, but she then confessed as well... so long as you have nothing to hide, then I see nothing wrong with it..
I would agree with this statement if she had "settled" for him I dont think she would have fucked 9 other men... My advice: ask her if she feels that this is a real relationship, and if not, and thats what you wanted out of it.. DUMP HER...
she hasn't fucked anyone other than me since we've been together. we spend all our time together. at first it really bothered me, but reality is all this was before she met me. i've fucked plenty of women, that i've lost count... but as i was "(taught, conditioned)" men are suppose to fuck as many females as possible, and that woman who fuck like men are whores. which is not totaly fair. i've spoke to her about it, told her my feelings, we had a couple of fights and hopefully its water under the bridge and we move foward and have a great relationship.
Huh...??? Simple statement. Didn't dump anyone into a folder. Just a simple statement about society's labels. Don't be so defensive.
Whores vs Studs I can explain why society favours promiscuous men, but not promiscuous women. It's all to do with evolutionary instinct. In evolutionary terms, men naturally sleep around so that they can impregnate as many women as possible, so whom they sleep with is of little consequence. Women, on the other hand, have to bear the children, and raise them, requiring as much support as they can get from the father, so naturally women are a LOT more choosy about whom they sleep with! There have been studies done to back this up: an attractive girl asked a large number of men if they wanted to sleep with her. All agreed. But when an attractive young man asked a load of strange girls if they wanted to sleep with him, almost all said 'no'. People have an instincitve tendency to favour what is good for the continuation of the species, hence we favour studs (mass-fertilisation), but not whores (irresponsible parents). Similarly, we're indifferent to female homosexuality (two women sleeping together is in no way detrimental to procreation), but find male homosexuality abhorrent (wasted semen is wasted chance for procreation). This is all in terms of evolution, of course. Thanks to contraception, the risks of having sex aren't quite as high, so we're free to adopt a more feminist attitude. But unfortunately, our evolutionary instincts are going nowhere. And then, if you're lucky enough to be part of a civilised, intellectual group of society, you just never hear words like 'stud' or 'whore' because people are enlightened enough to mind their own business and treat their friends with kindness. Dats Him, It seems neither of you can be trusted. Perhaps you can take this opportunity to lay all your cards on the table: you have something to confess, and so does she. Her sleeping around is not really the issue, is it? What it hurtful is that a girl would lie to you. So you need to make it clear that if there's going to be any relationship in future, you need things to be open. Also you need to find out if you both want the same thing from the relationship. What she said about hating relationships sounded scary! There is a small chance (very small) that everything you read was a lie, and you were set up to read it as a test of how much you trust her. If you can't be trusted, and you read her emails, then you would be bound to say something, which means she's found you out! If this is the case, she's quite ingenious and I think you're out of your league!
I learned a long time ago, dont ask what you dont want to know, dont look for what you dont want to see. People are going to do what they do no matter what. Ive recently given up my 3.5 years of saying bitches are trouble and a waist of time. Ya shouldnt of snooped but ya did and now ya know.
Well, that's understandable. You've been manipulated like a tool by society. Congrats on having the courage to verbalize your fears at the risk of all the fights. She deserves to know what's bothering you, and you deserve the peace of mind. Cheers, mate.
