stereotype (MERGED)

Does anybody else get really annoyed with certain stereotypes of gay people? and if so, which ones?

I hate the idea that lesbians are all big, butch women with short hair, who dont' wear make-up or do their nails,or shave, and wear flannell, etc...that is just SO the opposite of who I am or anybody I am attracted to. I know that there ARE lesbians who fit that description, but there are also straight women who fit that description too, come to think about it.
It's stupid but it annoys me. Just cause I'm a woman who looks like a woman...who is attracted to women who look like women. LOL ya know? I don't like the way people tend to think lesbian equals non-feminine.

And the other one...lol lesbians hate men. Well only real morons beleive that anyway though lol. I happen to love guys as friends, I'm just not very attracted to them.

 

Nope. I do not get annoyed. If people are still not beyond thinking in such crude stereotypes, in this day and age, they are better left alone with their severe limitations.

I have got ways to go and things to do...

KD

 

I'm more annoyed by the people who live up to them, personally.

 

True. I'm just annoyed by anyone,gay or lesbian who goes out of their way to let the world know they are just that.

 

exactly.

 

I hate it when I find myself doing something that others might perceive as "typical" gay personalities. I don't want to fit any stereotypes but sometimes I can't help it .

 

Alright well... There are many faces of pride that are steriotipical.
1.) The Flamer
2.) The Bound Leather Queen
3.) The Enraged Activist (have a lot of those here)
4.) And the favored of all The Albercrobie and Fich look-a-like Boytoy

 

Everyone falls under stereotypes sometimes. gay, straight, bi, etc. It's just when is excessive and appears to be an act that it gets annoying.

 

I've found that I'm just unstereotypical enough that, when I do something really stereotypically gay, people call me on it. I don't really care, it's kinda funny, but all the same, if someone outrageously camp got caught watching "Tea With Mussolini" no-one would bat an eyelid. Maybe it's just the company I'm able to keep.

 

I'm not even bothered if it's the way that person naturally acts. I just get the feeling that a lot of it isn't natural. Loads of guys I've known got steadily camper after they came out, and yeah, maybe they're just opening up, acting more how they want to as a result of feeling more liberated, but I dunno, seems like they're just trying to act the way they feel they're supposed to.

So yeah, it's fine to me if a person is a bit queeny. But there's loads that only act that way when they're in gay bars or around their friends, and I find that really hard to credit.

 

Exactly! It's like,why? You werent like that before. The comedian Mario Cantone:he's been around for ahwile & I used to like his standup. He was hilarious. Since he came out a few years ago,all his jokes revolve around him taking it in the butt & being as loud & flamboyant as possible.

Rosie O'Donnell is another. Don't even get me started on the lesbian hairdo she adopted the day she came out.... *rolls eyes*

 

Edit: Nevermind... I was angry.

~CrazybutLazy

 

Yeah that does annoy me a lot. There's this guy at my school who came out last year, and all of a sudden he started acting all bubbly and cute and flamboyant and I really don't think it's him.

 

I find myself falling into the same thing. I grew up as the jock and the smart kid my whole life who just happened to be gay. I think not being stereotypical helped the people from my small town grasp the concept of gay people being real people. I've done a lot of activism work for the gay community and continue to do so, but at the same time, I don't want someone to know I'm gay simply by how I walk down the street. I catch myself analyzing how I speak, stand, walk, etc, just to make sure that I'm still "straight-acting" and I look for the same in a partner. I guess it's my own internalized homophobia, but also something I try to work on. While the people who fall into the stereotypes may be annoying sometimes, that's not really WHO they are, just certain quirks about them - I try to remind myself of that a lot.

 

Do you fit any stereotypes? While I do act very masculine and unless you have a very well trained gaydar I doubt you can tell, but I use hand jestures sometimes, and I think that is my only "gay" attribute. Do any of you have anything?

 

My only stereotypical gay attributes only really show when I begin to act camply in a humorous way. Most people are completely unaware of my sexual orientation and show me pictures of naked girls and stuff assuming that I'm interested.

 

I act very feminine, people tell me. Apparently, I point out what doesn't match all the time. So i guess I fit into the feminine and fashion stereotype.

 

i use hand gestures often.

 

i'm so mediocre in my sexuality. my sexuality has never really been that sort of problem in my life. some people think i'm a bit too domineering for a woman, but i think that's more a factor outmoded concepts of femininity. but i'm bisexual. to be honest, i've never had to deal with stereotyping except when it's affecting my friends cruelly.

 

Hey People.
I am not gay. I'm 34 yrs old and single. I live in a Special Care Home, because I have lost all my ambition, and I'm dependant on anti-depressants, anti-anxiety pills, and anti-psychotic pills. Confused? I'll clerify. I was born with a very small penis, but was lucky enough to still have had sex with women my whole life; except the last seven years. I'm not one of those guys who doesn't realize that he's gay, and is confused about his sexual orientation. There's no question in my mind; I'm straight. However, I've never been much of a good experience to women sexually. I always had to appoligize, because also having a small dick, I had no stamina; two minutes tops. There is no question about it, I was the world's worst lay.
Ever since I can remember, I've always been a bit picky on my clothes. I didn't regularly wear rags, but I wasn't a metro-sexual either. I'm a T-shirt and jeans guy. I seriously messed up my life for good in 1995. I had no self esteem, and I felt skinny at 6 ft and 160 lbs. So not doing any research, and with no clue to what I was doing, I turned to Anabolic Steroids. I gained 15 lbs within two months, then stopped taking roids thinking that my muscle mass was permanent; stupid me. I left for college, leaving behind my then girlfriend. After about three months, I started losing muscle mass, strength, and started looking like an Aids victim. All my friends abandoned me because they didn't understand what was happening to me. I could no longer bear to look at myself in the mirror, and people would walk in an obviously evasive way around me, so they didn't have to meet my eyes. I really felt like the loneliest person on Earth, and I lived only inside my tormented mind. Some people, on a few occasions, made me feel like shit under their shoes; they said I was gay. I used to be a little homophobic because I didn't understand gays. But after being treated like one, I developed an understanding for gay people. After suffering like one, I could no longer discriminate against them. Gay people have to suffer the jokes and hatred that people throw at them, and are expected to be successful in a world that doesn't want them here. I tried to kill myself just before completing my final year of college. After I fell, I got up and dusted myself off, then finished school.
I returned home to my family, but I was still in a world of my own. I spoke jibberish, and my family couldn't understand me. After another few suicide attempts, I got psychiatric help and was medicated to balance the chemicals in my head. I put on weight; went up to 270 lbs. I moved from one Special Care Home to another, and finally settled where I now live. I lost 35 lbs and I feel alright. And I have come to terms that I'll probably remain single for the rest of my life. No normal woman would accept a broken down half-man like me. The women who I'm attracted to, are not attracted to me, but the women I want nothing to do with, try to pick me up. It's torture to have to explain my situation, and have to turn down these women. They don't like rejection anymore then men do. The steroids shrank my penis and testicals. I have almost no sperm production. I lost about 90% of my sex drive. And I have significant erectyle dysfunction. The only thing I have that is close to sex is watching women masturbate in videos that I get off the internet. I masterbate, and it's over in less than a minute. I only get the urge to masturbate about once per month; quite a difference than before 1995, when I craved sex once every second day.
I live in a Special Care Home, isolated from the world of responsibilities and people who don't understand my situation. They see me without a woman, and not pursuing any woman, and they conclude that I must be gay. I get so angry that I can easily see myself kick some serious ass. But I don't want to go to prison, where anal rape is a must. I don't understand how anal sex can excite anyone, whether you're the giver or the receiver. I tried it once with a girlfriend, and it felt disgusting. To finish, and to explain why I'm so fucked up in the end. My mother was sexually molested and beatten by her perverted father from the age of 12 to 16. Also, my father was sexually molested by a Catholic priest when he was an altar-boy. I was never molested or abused by my parents, but I'm the product of two parents who were. So when everything is said and done, I just wanted to let the gay community know that not everyone in this weird world is an ignorant asshole.